Ask Me Help Desk - I'm a mess, where to start

I am such a mess.. I was homeless so my mom (who has cancer) took me in knowing it risks her losing her house.. and I feel terrible. I have 2 preexisting medical problems which prevent me from keeping a job more then 3 weeks. I have no vehicle and I have a dog. Without her I don't think I would still be here. My family hates me for reasons beyond me and had the means to help me instead they try to keep me away from my family. I have a passion for helping animals and it costed me my house. My neighbor had a pitbull puppy and they cut his ears off with scissors... but the animal control here doesn't care so I stole the dog and got veterinarian care for the dog only to find out that he had parvo from the infection in his ear so it costed me 3k dollars of money which I had saved for college only for him and my other dog to die of the parvo. So my neighbor found out that I stole his dog and they came to my house with violence and flattened all our car tires so I had to move out of there right away for fear of my own safety. Since then I've had no job or transportation, I need multiple surgeries and have no insurance, every time I try to do something good... it backfires on me. I have big dreams of going to school being independent again I just don't know how to make it through the depression or even where to start.. if I could afford counseling I would definitely try it. Unfortunately I can't even afford food. Anyone have any advice?? I so need it I've gone so far down the totem pole I've been doing drugs (marijuana) and I want more for myself then that. Its like I have no control over my life.. I can't even stop smoking! I'm so stressed I just don't want to be here anymore... :confused:

You sound like someone who loves animals. I would encourage you to seek out animal shelters like the SPCA and volunteer to help out. You will find this personally rewarding and be helping other people, animals and yourself.

Good luck!

Ok you are not going to like what I have to say,

First no matter what the good reason, you don't steal. And you if you want turn over the animal to the human society, but you don't spend money you don't have and can't afford, on a animal that is not yours.
You are making poor choices.

And of course it appears you own a car? Just need four tires, used ones for about 15 bucks a piece has you back on the rad.

Yes, first a homeless person does not need nor can they afford a dog, so you find a home for your dog. You move into a shelter and get a job, if you really can't work, you file for and get disability, food stamps and welfare for your medical needs.

** if you are homeless, not working, no car and feeding a dog you don't have money for pot??

It is time to figure out you caused this, it was not the dog owners fault, you decided to break the law, then was scared because of that action, and ran away. So before you stole the dog, you had a home, how did you pay the bill? You get another one and pay that bill the same way.

It sounds like you are making a lot of excuses for not taking responsibility for your own actions

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Originally Posted by Disappointed22

You sound like someone who loves animals. I would encourage you to seek out animal shelters like the SPCA and volunteer to help out. You will find this personally rewarding and be helping other people, animals and yourself.

Good luck!

I really wish I could do that but living in the mountains is hard with no transportation and health problems. That would be my dream though to work with animals even on a volunteer basis but I can't continue to stay at my moms and hide I don't want her to become homeless because of me... I just feel what's the point of helping anyone or anything anymore when all you get out of it is hurt =( its saddening and unmotivating... but thanks anyway for the advice

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Ok you are not going to like what I have to say,

First no matter what the good reason, you don't steal. And you if you want turn over the animal to the human society, but you don't spend money you don't have and can't afford, on a animal that is not yours.
You are making poor choices.

And of course it appears you own a car ?? just need four tires, used ones for about 15 bucks a piece has you back on the rad.

Yes, first a homeless person does not need nor can they afford a dog, so you find a home for your dog. You move into a shelter and get a job, if you really can't work, you file for and get disability, food stamps and welfare for your medical needs.

** if you are homeless, not working, no car and feeding a dog you don't have money for pot ?????

It is time to figure out you caused this, it was not the dog owners fault, you decided to break the law, then was scared because of that action, and ran away. So before you stole the dog, you had a home, how did you pay the bill ?? you get another one and pay that bill the same way.

It sounds like you are making alot of excuses for not taking responsiblity for your own actions

A lot of things you say are true and that's why I'm a mess, I admitt fault on some situations, but by no means was I wrong for stealing that dog. How about animal cruelty? And how illegal and unmoral that is? I had the money to spend then, like I said I saved 3k dollars... and if I have to make self sacrifices to help others then so be it... like I said there is no humane society here and the shelter is useless. I live in a small mountain town there is no homeless shelter.as far as giving my dog up, without her I would have offed myself long time ago without her. She doesn't need me I need her and she has never gone without. I go without way more often. And at that time I did have a job and a place to have a dog. The car was not mine and was taken away after the situation occurred. And NOT the dog owners fault? Are you kidding me? They were running a dog fighting ring in olathe Colorado I even got pictures and recorded everything for the police to do nothing... is this world really that corrupt? And as far as the marijuana I can't afford it which is a good thing. But I don't want to get a job and still be on pot spending all of my money on it, I'm sick of being high, I used it as a way to self medicate because I can't get help for my health issues. I'm not using that as and excuse I know it doesn't make it right and that's why I need advice. Last thing I need is someone who doesn't know me assuming something they have no idea about. And if you saw that poor dog and didn't do something about it? I'm sorry but that makes you more low then me in my opinion.

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Originally Posted by kulaniu

alot of things you say are true and thats why im a mess, i admitt fault on some situations, but by no means was i wrong for stealing that dog. how about animal cruelty? and how illegal and unmoral that is? i had the money to spend then, like i said i saved 3k dollars.....and if i have to make self sacrifices to help others then so be it...like i said there is no humane society here and the shelter is useless. i live in a small mountain town there is no homeless shelter.as far as giving my dog up, without her i woulda offed myself long time ago without her. she doesnt need me i need her and she has never gone without. i go without way more often. and at that time i did have a job nd a place to have a dog. the car was not mine and was taken away after the situation occured. and NOT the dog owners fault? are you kidding me? they were runnin a dog fighting ring in olathe colorado i even got pictures and recorded everything for the police to do nothing...is this world really that corrupt? and as far as the marijuana i can't afford it which is a good thing. but i dont want to get a job and still be on pot spending all of my money on it, im sick of being high, i used it as a way to self medicate because i can't get help for my health issues. im not using that as n excuse i know it doesnt make it right and thats why i need advice. last thing i need is someone who doesnt know me assuming something they have no idea about. and if you saw that poor dog and didnt do something about it? im sorry but that makes you more low then me in my opinion.

And I did not run away nor was I afraid of the action, the police knew I stole the dog and said it was the right thing to do. But I guess the authorities were wrong and your right?

I think you need to be declared Disabled for social security and find out how you can get into a sheltered care home.. go to a relatively big city... a sheltered home is where you live in a home with other disabled people, have a housemother or housefather, and basically, start over. Get your medication stabilized, learn how to take care of yourself and your room, gradually get socialized and then look for a part time job. I have heard of success stories from this kind of treatment. :)