Hmmm... so okay... I've been dating this guy for 4 or 5 months off and on and well I'm really confused right now about where we stand cause we don't get to see each other much because I have to sneak around to be able to see him cause NO ONE likes him at all >.<! Though I can see why... and everyone has a good.. well great reason not to like him(he's kind of a really big liar :mad: and sometimes a thief)... I still do like him, I don't know why... but I do lol... buuuut I really don't think the relationship can go anywhere beyond where we are right now and it's stressing me out so much to have to sneak around and lie to everyone just to go see him for 1 hour a week and him acting like it's no big deal and not being grateful that I'm trying so hard to make it work:(!. so should I just dump him?? :confused:

The problem is he is not a real good guy. You know your pals are right. If you have to sneak around you are not right for him. If you cared for him you would be defending him instead of hiding him.

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!. so should I just dump him?? :confused:

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Yes, if you continue with this bad boy, you will be as bad as he is.

I think you answer your own question in your post, but posted it for reinsurance, yes leave him alone. If you have to sneak around with someone, then you should not be with him.

This should be easy since your relationship was on and off for 4 months.

See how simple that was!

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Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy

the problem is he is not a real good guy. you know your pals are right. if you have to sneak around you are not right for him. if you cared for him you would be defending him instead of hiding him.

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I've tried to defend him for so long! And I'm truthfully... I'm SICK OF IT! :( no one will listen to me because of his own self! He keeps throwing my words back in my face by not even trying to change and make something of himself! He has all the potential in the world... but he won't use it! And it kills me to be able to see it... and him not using it.

You are not going to save him. He does not want to be saved. Stop being a martyr and be a strong woman and move on.

He have to want to change not you or nobody else. Maybe he likes being a loser. Everyone want to see someone be the best and all they can be, but people like him don't think that way. Oh well!

You be all you can be and your be better without him in your life.

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Originally Posted by liz28

I think you answer your own question in your post, but posted it for reinsurance, yes leave him alone. If you have to sneak around with someone, then you should not be with him.

This should be easy since your relationship was on and off for 4 months.

See how simple that was!

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Yeah... I see your point... but it's so hard cause I hate him sooo much but I still love him >.<. I guess it's cause I feel bad for him and don't want to see him ruin his life... like he's doing... but I guess there's really nothing I can do to help him... so yeah... I think the best thing to do is back off and let him make his own mistakes in life and let him learn


... right?:(

You stop worring about his life and worry about your. Is there anything that you want to do, i.e. go to school? Then do it.

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Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy

you are not going to save him. he does not want to be saved. stop being a martyr and be a strong woman and move on.

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I know :( I guess I should... it's just so hard... but your right

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Originally Posted by liz28

You stop worring about his life and worry about your. Is there anything that you want to do, i.e. go to school? Then do it.

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Woah! I'm not that bad! I'm still in school lol! He might be a drop-out but I sure as heck won't be! :p

Every guy you ever date you're going to go through this. You will like/love him and not know why. He will have good points and bad points. You'll want him to change his bad points. He won't change his bad points.

Dating isn't about making a list of things you're going to get your guy to fix. It's about make a list of things you don't like and convincing yourself you can stand by this guy unconditionally for 80 years even if he never changes a thing on the list.

Should be an easier choice than it usually it, but there it is.

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Originally Posted by xXxRandomEmoxXx

woah! i'm not that bad! i'm still in school lol! he might be a drop-out but i sure as heck won't be! :p

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I'm sorry I thought you was out of school. Lol. That's good you get good grades to make it to college, their would be many guys. How old are you, if you don't mind telling.

I agree with the posts above...

He isn't a good person for you to be dating. He doesn't sound like a good person in general.

There are plenty others, go find a good one ;)

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I'm sorry I thought you was out of school. lol. Thats good you get good grades to make it to college, their would be many guys. How old are you, if you dont mind telling.

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I'm 17 ^_^

You are to young for this drama. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't limit yourself with this problem.