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  • May 29, 2008, 02:53 PM
    Valerius
    Is being short being ugly
    Hello,

    I'm a 16 year old guy - going on 17 - and am but a mere 5 feet 7 inches tall.

    It is a major point of insecurity for me. I'm constantly wishing I was taller, though I know there is nothing on God's green earth that can be done about it.

    I feel as though it puts me at a disadvantage for success with the opposite sex, life in general, and it is quite discouraging.

    Any words of wisdom or condolences from anyone would be much appreciated.

    Thanks,
    Nat
  • May 29, 2008, 02:57 PM
    Lucky1911
    Hunny, you just have to be yourself! My husband is 5'7" and he has always done well with the ladies and work. Also you don't want to be with a girl that is so shallow that she won't date you based on yor height! Also you can still grow!
  • May 31, 2008, 08:52 PM
    mrchef1110
    Short guys can do anything tall guys can. Some girls might prefer tall guys some might prefer short you just have to put yourself out there as most don't care as long as you are fun to be around

    On a side note, guys keep growing tell they are in their early twenties so you might still have some growing to do
  • Jun 6, 2008, 03:32 PM
    igman
    With all due respect Lucky and mrchef, I think I got this one (LOL). Valerius, I understand the anxiety you have... I was thinking the same things when I was your age. Wondering how my height, or lack of it, was going to effect my life. Let me tell you, the woman I married is gorgeous... not because she is my wife but she really is... she used to be a model. Will you have to adapt to certain situations in life ? Yes, but so does everybody else. I never felt like my height made me less of a man... quite the opposite... because I wasn't "average" height I knew I would have to compensate which kept my mind sharp and let me tell you most women find an intelligent mind the most attractive part of a man and will take that over height any day.
    Oh, how "tall " am I you ask : 5'5" and 37 year old
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:23 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Height has nothing to do with looks, your lack of self confidence can. You have to learn to be yourself and feel great about who you are.

    And 5 7 is not short it is to the lower side of average,
  • Jun 18, 2008, 02:19 PM
    snowalps
    Great going "igman" ! I really appreciate your attitude and your sense of humor! Take care.
  • Jun 18, 2008, 03:09 PM
    igman
    Thanks snowalps... when you are my height, the only way to go is up!!
    You take care too.
  • Jun 18, 2008, 04:13 PM
    Nestorian
    “Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not. For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. You must feel the Force around you; here, between you, me, the tree, the rock, everywhere, yes. Even between the land and the ship.” - Yoda

    Haha, OK, so I know we're not Jedis and all, but Like yoda says, "Life creates it, makes it grow." In other words, life will give you paths to follow, and inturn you will grow, one way or the other. Some things you can change, others you simply can't. So learn to be comfortable and enjoy yourself. You may not be all that tall, but to most girls I know, "Size matters not!" -Yoda, it's what you do with it that counts. If you catch my drift. ;) So consentrat on yourself, and your connection to the world around you, and the rest falls into place. Man it's bin a Yoda day I tell you.

    Haha, Peace brother.
  • Jun 18, 2008, 05:58 PM
    snowalps
    By the way am little more than 5.4... even I have been desperate to increase my height, even today.but you need to be confident and that's all that matters.
  • Jul 3, 2008, 03:37 AM
    chukur
    First of all can anybody judge anyone by their size? We have to live our lives with the body God has provided us. Height does not matter. What matters is your attitude, yourself confidence, your behavior. You are not d only one with short height. There are so many people with short heights. There is no need at all to feel insecure about your height. You just need 2 have a positive attitude towards yourself and others. Accept yourself as God has made you. But you can always try. By the way you are on the growing age and there are strong chances that your height can still increase. You can try on your behalf. You can do stretching exercises and pull ups for that. But in any case you mustn't get upset. Also remember that "All great people come in small packages":) .
  • Jul 3, 2008, 03:40 AM
    danielnoahsmommy
    You are still young and may grow more. Had a boyfriend 1st two years of college he was
    5'9'' about 155 went away for 6 months saw him again close to 6 foot and 180lbs. Most boys continue growing past 17 years
  • Jul 3, 2008, 03:09 PM
    N0help4u
    Nah Tom Cruise is 5' 7" and that isn't really all that short.
  • Jul 3, 2008, 10:03 PM
    snowalps
    Well said... good things come in small packages.. I completely agree :-)
  • Jul 6, 2008, 08:33 AM
    softbalgrl1331
    Hey! I am insulted! You think 5 feet 7 inches is short?
    Then that makes me a dwarf at 5 feet 2 inches!
    Okay, okay I may only be 14 and a girl and all, but I am still offended!

    Hehe, I'm just joking around... but really- being short isn't bad! :D
  • Jul 6, 2008, 09:06 AM
    KalFour
    Hi Nat,

    I'm a girl, and about 5 foot 8 inches. Height has always been a hangup for me and I probably wouldn't date a guy shorter than me.
    BUT... the reason is that I've always felt conspicuously tall for a girl, so wouldn't want a shorter boyfriend as it would draw attention to my height. Sounds silly eh? :P

    But if I met a guy I really liked, if he were a little (or even a lot) shorter than me it really wouldn't be an issue.

    And besides that, you're still taller than the vast majority of girls your age. You're not actually that short. Seriously, don't worry about it.

    Kal
  • Jul 6, 2008, 05:48 PM
    snowalps
    Hey softbalgrl1331! That was a response to chukur :-) nyways I myself am 5"4 :-)
    Someone motivate me too! seriously need it sometimes, 'have to agree !
  • Jul 6, 2008, 07:41 PM
    softbalgrl1331
    Hahaha snowalps I didn't even notice!! :)
  • Jul 6, 2008, 07:44 PM
    JoeCanada76
    5'7 is not short and your not even completely done growing yet.
  • Jul 6, 2008, 07:45 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    I'm 5'8"... I don't think I'm really all that short...

    ... there's an eye opener...
  • Jul 6, 2008, 07:57 PM
    Wondergirl
    You sound like you are at a good kissing height.

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