Ask Me Help Desk - He cheated and lied

I dated a guy for 4 years, and took him back repeatedly after he cheated and lied to me. He always promised things would change and they never did. I finally just told him I don't care anymore and left him, but now I'm so unconsolable!! I literally haven't felt this much pain, the realization of having to move on and change something that has been so natural in my life for that long... I don't know what to do. It isn't the first time we broke up, and we haven't been together in a while, but I finally just ended everything and left no room for us getting back together. It hurts so bad to know that someone could do that to another person...
I have no clue what to do, I just want to feel better and make this go away!:(

I dated a guy for 4 years, and took him back repeatedly after he cheated and lied to me. He always promised things would change and they never did. I finally just told him I don't care anymore and left him, but now I'm so unconsolable!! I literally haven't felt this much pain, the realization of having to move on and change something that has been so natural in my life for that long... I don't know what to do. It isn't the first time we broke up, and we haven't been together in a while, but I finally just ended everything and left no room for us getting back together. It hurts so bad to know that someone could do that to another person...
I have no clue what to do, I just want to feel better and make this go away!

It takes a lot of guts to break off a longterm relationship that way, but you did. You have taken the first step to being happy and healthy. No way can anyone stop the pain, as that's part of the healing process. But after you grieve it will be time to get busy, and work to put your life together. Read the "stickies" for this forum, the links are in my signature. You will find you are not alone and we all support each other.

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Originally Posted by yellowrose23

I dated a guy for 4 years, and took him back repeatedly after he cheated and lied to me. He always promised things would change and they never did. I finally just told him I don't care anymore and left him, but now i'm so unconsolable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I literally haven't felt this much pain, the realization of having to move on and change something that has been so natural in my life for that long... I don't know what to do. It isn't the first time we broke up, and we haven't been together in a while, but I finally just ended everything and left no room for us getting back together. It hurts so bad to know that someone could do that to another person...
I have no clue what to do, I just want to feel better and make this go away!:(

I dated a guy for 4 years, and took him back repeatedly after he cheated and lied to me. He always promised things would change and they never did. I finally just told him I don't care anymore and left him, but now i'm so unconsolable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I literally haven't felt this much pain, the realization of having to move on and change something that has been so natural in my life for that long... I don't know what to do. It isn't the first time we broke up, and we haven't been together in a while, but I finally just ended everything and left no room for us getting back together. It hurts so bad to know that someone could do that to another person...
I have no clue what to do, I just want to feel better and make this go away!

I've been in that same situation as well. As mine was he always cheated, but on top of that I had the physical and emotional abuse all the time. I have a child with him as well. It really sucks. I broke it off a while ago now to, cause it came a point in my life that enough is enough. Im a good person and deserve better, as you do as well. NO ONE deserves to be cheated on. The pain is horrible, the feeling of finding out is sick, and makes me want to throw up. I took him back many times as well, and after almost 10 years now, I finally thought to myself, I'm so hurt in this relationship, and I'm in pain and hurt when I'm not with him as well. At least if you break up with him there's still pain, but a chance of healing, if your still with him, there is no healing it will be only pain. So I know it sucks, but smile, take each day slowly and plan lots of activities to keep you busy and eventully you won't think about him as much, you deserve way better, and I keep telling myself that as well... its hard but Move on... even though you don't know me I'm with you 100% and wish you all the best.

It is part of life, people come and people go from our lives and we care for them in various intensities... when we have to let people go from our lives who we are strongly emotional about, there follows a period of grief and sadness that we must go through, crying and carrying on... this is part of the healing process. Don't keep emotions inside.

In a matter of months, we recover and are ready to continue on with life, more wise and more intelligent. :)