I am 40 weeks pregnant and I am past my due date . Now the doctor told me he won't induce for another 8 days and I am in such pain and agony. I have cried for a hours, I am so stressed about everything I am going snap. Plus the doctor is leaving for a week so there is no chance of him delivering the baby. My husband is leaving town for a week as well due to business and he needs to go, I am so afraid if I haven't delivered by Tuesday I am going to be doing this by myself. What can I do to bring this baby out in the next few days? I feel really depressed and I just read that is you stress can delay labour is that true? I know everyone thinks just relax and wait but after my accident a few years ago my back is in so much pain. Am I just being a child about this or has anyone else felt like this? He did say if your in too much pain come in to the hospital and will see what we can do.



PS I have tried sex, walking, all the housework, and spicy food. I am not a fan of the oil that everyone keeps telling me to take.

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Originally Posted by davejag

I am 40 weeks pregnant and I am past my due date . Now the doctor told me he wont induce for another 8 days and I am in such pain and agony. I have cried for a hours, I am so stressed about everything I am going snap. Plus the doctor is leaving for a week so there is no chance of him delivering the baby. My husband is leaving town for a week as well due to business and he needs to go, I am so afraid if I haven't delivered by Tuesday I am going to be doing this by my self. What can I do to bring this baby out in the next few days? I feel really depressed and I just read that is you stress can delay labour is that true? I know everyone thinks just relax and wait but after my accident a few years ago my back is in so much pain. Am I just being a child about this or has anyone else felt like this? He did say if your in to much pain come in to the hospital and will see what we can do.



PS I have tried sex, walking, all the housework, and spicy food. I am not a fan of the oil that everyone keeps telling me to take.

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I'd skip the oil (castor oil) as well... only giving it some consideration if I were wanting to try to avoid a medical induction and weighing the pros and cons of both options. I don't normally suggest an induction for other than a true medical reason, but since your husband has to go out of town, you might see if that will persuade your doctor to relent and go ahead earlier than he would normally. Is there anyone else who might be able to go in with you if it turns out he can't be there? You may want to have a back-up plan just in case.

A few things you could try, but keep in mind nothing works for everyone:

*the frequent sex... not always your first thought, but hey, sometimes you do what you have to do... :) The prostaglandins in the semen may help soften the cervix and you may start with some contractions.
*nipple stimulation... the key is to start with one side, move onto both if nothing happens, but back off if they start to come on too strongly or last longer than a minute... often has to be done for a fair amount of time... but then, it may lead into the first option... ;) The oxytocin that is released may get things moving... pitocin, what is used in most inductions, is a synthetic form of oxytocin.
*pressure points... two that I have used with women in labor are "hoku"... the webbed area between your thumb and forefinger, and "spleen 6"... about 4 fingers width above your ankle bone... press either area with your thumb, works better if someone else does it for you... should feel a bit tender... hold for 30 seconds, wait several minutes and apply pressure again... repeat (this tends to work better once labor has actually started)
*you could ask your doctor about a membrane sweep... he would separate a bit of the amniotic sac from the cervix with a sweep of his fingers... may release prostaglandins.
Ask him to do a check and tell you what your "Bishops Score" is (a determination of several factors as to how prepared your cervix has become for labor)... the higher the score, the more likely some of the things may work for you.
Everything you may try will have pros and cons, but some are less invasive than others... discuss your options with your doctor... ultimately it is your birth, but hopefully you can come to a decision you are both happy with.

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The husband has to put his foot down and say MY WIFE AND I ARE HAVING A BABY_SEE YOU ALL LATER!!

Unless they are on fire, your husband is not needed by anyone EXCEPT YOU!

You should be enjoying sex with him-as stated above (doula) and nipple stimulation as well again ref: doula.

I really do not know what you are going through, but I come on here everyday and read your posts... waiting to see if you have had your baby. Hang in there, it must be hard, has your husband tried to explain to his work the situation? My husband also travels, so I know your concerns regarding that. Like I said, I do not have much advice to give, but wish you well, and everyday I will check to see if your little bundle has arrived. I will cross my fingers and say a prayer for you :)

Thanks guys you have no idea how much the support means to me, I really am hoping that this weekend something will happen. He did say that if I was in too much pain this weekend just to come in and then I will make him induce me. My husband has to leave town he is the only one that knows what he is doing at this company. We have tried everything.

I personally feel that the doctor should not be delaying the induction. Does not make sense to me. Your already forty weeks. Depending on everybody condition it is even save to induce at 38 week.

Hope no matter what way it happens that the out come is an amazing experience and blessing in your lives. All this pain will be forgotten.

Take care,

Don't forget that EDC is only a guesstimate. You still may be 38 weeks or you could be 42. Many women who go into labor with a "plan" don't get to follow their "plan."

At 40 weeks it's time to put your foot down and say that it is time to be induced. I have seen many a baby born past 40 weeks that is in distress. The most recent was a 44 weeker. The further you are past 40 weeks the weaker the placenta is to carry on through a vag delivery.

However, to stay on the doc's side, again, your due date could swing two weeks either way. If the doc wants to wait another 8 days, I won't disagree, but I would not agree to go any further than that 8 days.

I totally understand what you are going through my 1st daughter was born @ 42 weeks & my doctor refused to induce me & I was soooooooooooo miserable! Hang in there I hope your Doctor will induce you soon or maybe you will go into labor. I know its really hard but try laying in the dark with soft music and try to relax.

Well the dr just called and said because he is out of town he now wants to wait 10 days instead of 8 I nearly killed him. I was so upset I just couldn't say anything but okay. I will go in on Friday to the LD and just say I can't deal with the pain anymore please do something. What else can I do? When he did the last 3 ultrasounds ( I had 9 ultrasounds in total) he said my due date matched my period date, so does that not mean I am right on schedule? He said if the baby is fine and your fine he doesn't think we should induce. I have been pregnant since Jan 2007 ( 2 miscarriages before this pregnancy) I just want this morning sickness, back ache, and everything else to clam down.

The amount of pain etc and distress you are describing seems to me like you need a new doctor. Sorry but it sounds like "patient care" just flew out of the window with your one..

To me the pain, if distressing enough for you-is not good for your baby-you need to get a second opinion-sorry.

I totally agree I have cried and stressed over things long enough, my husband has worked 7 days a week just to keep up with things. In the end it isn't my DR choice I guess either it is the OB's choice to induce or not.

I can see both sides to this. Inductions have potential pros and cons that should be discussed and weighed based on individual circumstances. It is important to keep in mind that even though they are the fastest growing intervention in matenity in the last 10 years, does not mean they are without risk. C-sections are common place too, but they are also major abdominal surgery.
It sounds harsh, but mom being uncomfortable is not a medical reason to induce... certainly women can make that decision, and inductions are performed for this reason, but they need to be aware of the potential pros and cons so that it can be an informed decision. It can also depend on what sort of birth you are hoping for... not everyone wants a natural birth, or one with as little intervention as necessary. Many women want whatever the doctor is willing to give them so that they can move things along, be without pain, and "enjoy" the process... neither is right or wrong, but both should come with ample information.
Your doctor can do several tests over the next week to determine just how baby is doing, that can be a deciding factor as well as to whether he may induce sooner. Talk to your OB about your situation with your husband having to be out of town. When is your husband scheduled to leave?

Both the DR and husband leave this Tuesday and won't be back till next Sunday or Monday. I know it isn't a reason induce but this can't be healthy still throwing up, not being able to move around because of my back injury, not to mention the stress I know people say just relax but it is hard.

Try to walk and swim. I went in to labor from swimming too much we spent the whole summer swimming and I didn't even know I was in labor intil I started having contractions on the way home. It was the most horrible pain I ever felt and now I am going to deliver twins in dec. But I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you guys I will keep you updated over the weekend.

Hopefully you will go on your own in the next few days. You would unlikely be able to change doctors, most won't take on someone new at 40 weeks, many will have a cut off time... often about 36 weeks, but you could ask. Who is taking over your care since your doctor will not be available?

No you have to go to the hospital and they have an on call doctor. That's why I am not really happy about it but I guess I have to go with it. I have been doing housework today just trying to move around, I think that will help my back a bit rather then just sitting in one spot. As well it may help the baby move down all the way and get things going. I can't really walk outside that much by myself so I try in my house walking up my 20 stairs.