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  • May 28, 2008, 09:53 AM
    Tinkerbell24
    New guy, New Love?
    So there was this guy that I would see all the time at the gastation and every time I was there he would ALWAYS talk to me. This kept going on for about a month or so. We knew we both liked each other and that was that. One time I was in there he slipped me his number and told me to call him sometime and we could chill. So I texted him and we have been texting like crazy. As we were talking he was talking about how he has certain expectations for girlfriends, but he won't tell me. We hung out for6 hours, watching movie and just talking. At the end of the day he kissed me.

    Does this mean he really likes me now or is it him testing the water?:confused:
  • May 28, 2008, 10:04 AM
    mrchef1110
    Yes its obvious he is into you
  • May 28, 2008, 10:09 AM
    bigbird213
    I would want to know what "Certain expectations" means before I got involved.

    If he won't tell you what they are, that's a little weird.
  • May 28, 2008, 10:43 AM
    jolienoire
    It seems he could be interested, but it is far too soon to overanalyze the situation. He probably will not tell you his expectations as you would probably try too hard to be the girl he wants, and not yourself. Or he could simply not know what he really wants and therefore trying to figure that out. Either way take your time.
  • May 28, 2008, 11:31 AM
    talaniman
    He likes you enough to test the water.
  • May 28, 2008, 01:26 PM
    damaged
    If he is trying that means he must like you... Give it a try.. and like Jolienorie said maybe he doesn't want to let you know what his espectations are because he might be afraid you won't be yourself just 2 impress him.. :rolleyes:
  • Jun 2, 2008, 08:13 AM
    Tinkerbell24
    I know that's exactly what it is. He won't tell me because he doesn't want me to change for him. But the out of no where he turned around and told me he wasn't feeling the same things I was feeling for him. And all I'm feeling right now is a crush that's growing. After a few days of not talking I texted him just saying how my work sucked and all, casual conversation. Then he wanted to get together to talk things out because he thought about it all and he realized that he freaked because he actually has someone that cares. Should I give him another chance or give up?
  • Jun 2, 2008, 08:44 AM
    bigbird213
    He sounds a little confused. You might not want to get too involved with someone that might confuse the hell out of you and hurt you in the process...

    If you keep talking with him, be careful and take it slow. Don't fall head over heels.
  • Jun 2, 2008, 08:44 AM
    damaged
    You really like him.. so Listen to what he has to say, and after that you can decide if you want to give him another chance... I personally think you should, but that's a decision you have to make... listen to him and see..
  • Jun 2, 2008, 08:46 AM
    Sikativ
    Should I give him another chance or give up?
    That decision is going to be up to you...

    However, It sounds like he may just be interested in the goods. If you do decide to give him this chance, be wary of his moves as you don't want to be swept away by someone who only wants you for physical traits.

    Talk to him about how HE feels... you could get some info that you might have not know before or something else unexpected..

    If you feel comfortable enough, talk to him about how his actions made you think twice and you are unsure as to what he wants...

    -Sik
  • Jun 3, 2008, 01:06 PM
    Tinkerbell24
    I know exactly what I want in my boyfriends but I'm not sure he knows what he wants in anything.he knows exactly how I feel about him and its too late to turn back now because I have fallen head over heals for him. Feelings that I haven't felt in forever. Just, UGGHHH!. so confused.
  • Jun 3, 2008, 01:10 PM
    Romefalls19
    Take some time and think about what you want, then bring it to his attention and see how he feels about the situation. Then decide to continue together or apart
  • Jun 3, 2008, 01:33 PM
    liz28
    I don't think you should tell him you love when you bearly know if he really want to be together instead of jumping in the water get to know him by dating him. You might not love him but it might be lust and people sems to confused the two.
  • Jun 3, 2008, 03:13 PM
    talaniman
    I have to agree with Rome, as you may know how you feel, or think you feel, but he may not see it the same way. He may just like you, but unsure how much, but that's what dating is about, having fun getting to know each other. Relax, and go with the flow, but don't get carried away with your feelings.

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