Well I was just wondering what any of you have to say about jealousy. Think it's good or bad? I mean I know everyone gets jealous, I think it's just natural to, but how much does that affect any relationship?
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Well I was just wondering what any of you have to say about jealousy. Think it's good or bad? I mean I know everyone gets jealous, I think it's just natural to, but how much does that affect any relationship?
how much does that affect any relationship?
It affects it in direct proportion to how much you stupidly let it show. Jealousy is a personal problem. It is often wielded as a sign of love, but most often is NOT well delivered.
A humorous approach to it and a non-forceful nod to its existence is the only way to use it. When you take your jealousy and turn it into demands on the life of another person, you've crossed the line.
Your jealousy is not someone else's responsibility to ease. It's yours to deal with. Keep it to yourself, or at least make sure it comes out in a good-natured humorous way.
No one owns another person. Jealousy is anger because you do not own them and control their every move. Jealousy is childish and a stupid, desperate attempt to control another. It works too, but only because the other person is reacting to the jealousy. The reaction may take many forms... This is rarely love, usually fear.
OK well figure this one out, my ex girlfriend used to get jealous of me talking to any other girl all the time and wudnt start fights over it but would constantly bring things up like 'u wrote on her Facebook wall!' or 'u were talking to her all night' I would laugh at it and say I only have eyes for you in which she would get all lovey dovey and we'd be happy. Because I know that jealousy is a natural thing if anyone says they aren't jealous they are talking nonsense. Now 2 weeks ago I got jealous of her talking to a guy, all I said was yes I got a little bit jealous and do you know what she did?. she dumped me! Saying that I have no trust in her etc. so please someone try and figure that one out!
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Originally Posted by srulik86
Wow I think she did wrong in dumping you for that. Like I mentioned before, I really think jealousy is normal and it's just bound to happen no matter how much you trust the person you're with. I think it's not about you not trusting her, cause I think you do trust her, but it's more of you not trusting that guy. I know that's what I do, I'll trust my guy more than anyone else, but it's other girls I won't trust... if that makes sense. I think when someone gets jealous it shows that they care, people will probably disagree with that, but that's what I think. But I also think that you shouldn't let jealousy take over and up screwing up a relationship. Geesh all this jealousy stuff sounds complicated.
I totally agree withyou, jealousy does show that you care, which is why whenever she got jealous of me talking to other girls it would make me happy because it showed me she cared, if she didn't get jealous, I'd worry. And your right its not I didn't trust its him, Friday night he slept with a friend of ours whilst her boyfriend was alseep in the next room... my ex doesn't know this but that's why! That's the type of guy he is, even though he is also a mate! She dumped me by text no less, and that's it. This girl who had a breakdown over me because I wudnt talk to her 2 months previous, now doesn't want anything to do with me. And I'm hurting bad!
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Originally Posted by thinkinabouthim
I won't give you a reddie, but I disagree with this. Jealousy never stems from jealousy with your partner or with the other individuals. It is something that is inside you, nobody else. It is the feeling of being insecure with yourself that brings about this monster. It will eat away at you until you get to the bottom of what is causing it. Sometimes it could be something as simple as a parent who showed more affection to a sibling to something more like being cheated on in a relationship. Whatever the cause is, you need to figure it out or it will ultimately destroy your relationship. It eats away at you all day and all night, the feeling that your S/O is out with someone else. I don't think jealousy is a good thing in a relationship at all, once you start getting jealousy it is extremely hard to stop. It never has anything to do with not trusting the other girls because well, to be honest, he has the chance to say no. Don't mask problems by placing blame somewhere else, I tried it and only ended up on here for my relationship failing.
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Originally Posted by simoneaugie
Totally agree. I hate jealousy and have to combat on a regular basis. It is generally horrible and totally destructive.
I agree. Its natural. I'm a jelous person kind of, but I try not to show. I'm also very open and honest, so if I feel like something is wrong I let the guy know. People have told me jelousy is a sign you don't love them? I don't agree. But if your going to be jelous of something or someone, have a reason. I hate it when people are jelous, but have no reason? You know?
Jealousy is a disease an unhealthy condition enabled by insecurities and fed by doubts. The jealous mind often mistake love for jealousy or suppose that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy when in turn, they're unsuited; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other. And both at once can produce havoc. Jealousy comes from fear of rejection and abandonment.
Its just like any other emotion as you learn to cope with it and not let it interfer in the way you live your life.
Dude, I doubt she dumped you over the jealousy as she claimed. That was an opportunistic moment she seized to break up with you and make it ALL YOUR FAULT. This is so typical. Maturity is really hard to acquire.
Just remember, some people can only end a relationship by having a huge blowup fight. That's the best they can do. She wanted to to break up, had already been thinking about it, and you opened the door for her.
Don't sweat it. You like her, fine, but you know you don't need that drama in your life. Her jealousy she used on you as a manipulation, and your jealousy she dumps you over?
PLEASE? Your smarter than that. Know in your mind what she's doing/did, laugh it off, have a much better life without her. That's revenge enough.
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