My best friend stayed over at my house last night and we started kissing and we ended up on the floor and I ended up on top of her and when we were kissing,she was sucking on my tongue and I unintentionally started "rocking" back and forth.but I didn't think anything of it but then when she was on me she started doing it and it was enough to know we were "dry humping".but she put her knee between my legs,to well,you know where,and started doing it again,and I think I orgasmed.it was like really intamate.and my question is,how can we do all this and still be straight?and why did I orgasm? I don't really know what's going on:confused: :confused:

Because young teens often experiment with their sexuality, and you orgasm because you stimulate the correct area.
But then one does not just "start kissing" what was the reason that started ?

Notice, I'm going to offer no judgements on any of this since you asked for none. I'm pushing you to honesty and using correct thoughts about what you're doing. There are terms for it, they are true, and you simply need to select the slot that is ACTUALLY true for you.

After that, the only confusion left is what are you going to do about where you find yourself on the "terms" chart?

If you like and sexually interact with a girl, then you are a lesbian.
If you like and sexually interact with males ONLY, then you are straight.
If you like and sexually interact with both, then you are bisexual.

Right now, you're not acting straight. You may like boys, too, but your ability to behave sexually at this level with a female means only that you're not straight.

Claiming that you're straight is pointless based on your story. You're of a freer mindset and have physical attraction to a woman. Not only did you have feelings, you acted on them, pursued the action to sexual climax.

This is normal lesbian behavior. If you don't like the word, you don't have to use it... but, "A rose by any other name still smells as sweet." (Shakespeare)

So, now that the denial part is over, what exactly are you confused about? I bet it's simply the "straight" word again. Once you get over needing to be able to claim you like boys only while you have sexual relations with a girl, once you're honest, this confusion should subside.

I love JB's answer! That is exactly the way I would have answered it!

Being "straight" doesn't mean anything other than sexual preference. There is no "right" and "wrong," just what is RIGHT for you. It is also true that every young person in the world has done something experimental.

You two are just trying out both sides of the fence, either way you're normal. If you still like boys, then you have the best of both worlds I suppose. Either way, I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

JB's answer needs a bit of clarification from what I learned in a sexuality course. AT the teen and pre-teen level interactions with the same sex should not necessarily be judged as lesbian/gay but rather experimental. It's just part of the discovery process. We also learned that each is attracted along a continuum from same sex to bi to opposite sex and anything in between. You could also have no attraction to either sex.

Absolutely. Experimental is correct, as long as it doesn't develop into a relationship. If so, then experimental becomes choice.

And also, the choice can change. So, she just needs to NOT focus on the stigma of the terms, they are what they are, and after that... real life flourishes.

Two of my sisters had sleep "overs" with their friends, one of them is a lesbian and the other bisexual...

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Originally Posted by lightsron

my best friend stayed over at my house last night and we started kissing and we ended up on the floor and i ended up on top of her and when we were kissing,she was sucking on my tongue and i unintentionally started "rocking" back and forth.but i didnt think anything of it but then when she was on me she started doing it and it was enough to know we were "dry humping".but she put her knee between my legs,to well,you know where,and started doing it again,and i think i orgasmed.it was like really intamate.and my question is,how can we do all this and still be straight?and why did i orgasm? i dont really know whats going on:confused: :confused:

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I think its perfectly fine you guys are best friends and obviously trust each other... maybe you two should just keep it between you two. But don't feel uncomfortable about it. Everything happens for a reason! Its called experimenting

Oh, sorry JB, just saw you did say something about experimenting.
Dammit he's right again!