I got married to my high school boy friend when I was 18, because by that time we had a 10 month old baby and we thought getting married was the best thing to do. We where in love and things worked out well for a while. However a year and four months later I left him because we fought all the time, I was no longer in love with him, and I felt like if I took myself and my son out of the situation it would be better for both of us. So I left, and now 7 years later, here I am still legally married but split for the last 7 years. The only reason I never filed for divorce was because I was afraid he would fight me for custody of my son. Now however he lives far away, and I know he does not care enough to come all the way to me to fight custody. So now I plan on filling for divorce. So my question is "what do I need to do to get a divorce?" "Will it cost me lots of money?" I'm kind of in a hard place right now as far as money goes, are there places that help with financial difficulties of divorce?

This depends on where you live. Divorce laws vary. If your husband won't contest it you may be able to get a no fault divorce inexpensively. I would suggest getting a consultation with a couple of local divorce lawyers.

I don't want to lecture you, but I think your story can serve as a lesson to other young girls. I know you think you were in love, but obviously you weren't. I gather the baby was not planned so that was another issue. But your story is, unfortunately, not uncommon enough among young people who think they know what love is and wind up with a baby and/or a bad marriage.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

I don't want to lecture you, but I think your story can serve as a lesson to other young girls. I know you think you were in love, but obviously you weren't. I gather the baby was not planned so that was another issue. But your story is, unfortunately, not uncommon enough among young people who think they know what love is and wind up with a baby and/or a bad marriage.

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You are completely right, although to this day I do feel like I was in love with him. However we where too young, and no we had not planned on getting pregnant. I live in CA by the way. Thank you for your help.

I use dto work with a girl that bought a divorce packet at walgreens and because her husband did not contest they got one that way. I believe the packet was around 29 dollars that was years ago though.

Usually you should get practical help in a social department. I'm not from the US but there are obligations to help woman's in your situation, even financially, where I life.

Try to call up some social worker to inform yourself how to get that divorce.

G.