3 years in and about to move in, girlfriend says she's not sure she loves me anymore
Ok I'm not entirely sure where to start with this so here it goes. I live in nj and have been dating a girl I grew up with, parents divorced, and she moved to long island. Would be 3 years now in August and we see each other just about every weekend. The beginning of this year we decided our goal was to move in together by september-ish as she would be done with college. During this time I've noticed she worries more about smaller things, especially the idea of us moving in together. But these emotions change, somedays she is excited and showing me apartments she found, talking about how she wants to do our bathroom, etc. Then she's back on to worrying about finding a job, worrying about if she went to a good enough school to compete in her field, worried if we are going to have enough money. I find these are all normal things to worry about. Now, out of nowhere, she drops on me that she's not entirely sure she still loves me or feels the same way about me... that the relationship had just gotten comfortable and she wasn't differentiating between that and love. But this is right after a weekend where so many times I caught her just staring at me and smiling, and me asking her what she was thinking and her replying "just that i really do love you" I mean literally the DAY before she said this we were talking about possibly finding apartments in a different area than we initially planned. I don't get it. Talking to some people older than me they say women do tend to get cold feed and over analyze things like this. She says that she's not sure we are compatible anymore, but the reasons she gives are so basic and mundane that no relationship would work if that's why people ended them. I need some insight here, is she just reeling in emotions? She just ended college, just about to move out for the first time, she was very religious growing up and her family remains such and doesn't talk to her/include her the same, worried about making money, etc. Is she blending everything together and I'm an easy scapegoat or is there real truth to what she is saying. Thanks in advance guys! -luke