Did he want a relationship? Or did I force him into it?
So I've been seeing someone new for a couple of weeks. We were really into each other. Unfortunately, college ended and I had to go back home.
Before leaving, I asked him if it was OK if I saw other people over the summer, and he said that as long as we're honest with each other, I could do as I wish. He said that when it comes to feelings, people do what they will do... at least in his experience. I told him I agreed, but that wasn't good enough for me. I didn't want him to see other people. If he has different plans or thinks that he will in the future, he should tell me so we don't waste each other's time. He said he was fine with that option, too, and hadn't been sure how I felt and didn't want to push me into anything.
I guess what got me angry was that he told me that "nothing is forced" and that it would take effort from both sides. He would be "honest if anything happens." I know his last long-term relationship ended rather badly. She cheated on him and he found out not from her, but online.
He said that if I want commitment, I have it and that he's given his word, and if I still don't trust him then, there was no point in starting the conversation.
My question is... did I force him into a relationship he didn't want? I admit I was holding myself back from him, not wanting to get too close while we saw each other. Deep down, I'm afraid of getting hurt again, but willing to risk it.
Am I overthinking things again? ::sigh::