I'm so confused, angry, hurt, and determined. About two months ago my boyfriend decided we should take a break because he had a lot of things going on in his life. So he wanted to get back in track but didn't want to loose me in the process. We still talk and hang out like we were a couple. The only thing that was killing our relationship was that he would lie to me a lot it wasn't serious things but I would always find out and it would get me really angry and it hurt a lot that he lied to me. He will tell he didn't mean to do it. I think he feels bad for the things he did to me and he feels that his worth nothing he told me a couple of times. About a week ago he lied to me again and I found out about eveything. I told him that I really want our relationship to work out and I'm putting everything I got but I need his help too. He told me that the best thing to do is to be friends because he doesn't want to keep hurting me but he still likes me a lot. I don't know what to do. Should I give it time? Does he really only want to be friends? Should I give up? I don't know what to do. I need Help. I love him sooo much

You have one basic option. Live with his lying or move on. What is he lying about? Porn,drugs? My suggestion, MOVE ON!

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I'm so confused,

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Let me unconfuse you.

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he would lie to me a lot

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he lied to me.

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he lied to me again

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He told me that the best thing to do is to be friends

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Well there you go. He's a liar and he wants to be friends. Your not confused, you just don't want to accept it, but for you to move forward you must.

Of course he still likes you, you are a great person I assume, someone can like you and even love you but that does not always warrant or guarantee that you will be together, he just wants to be friends.. And even that is a lie because he is a liar. Friends are honest with one another. Besides if he needs to lie to you it means he is not comfortable with communicating to you. So he fabricates things you want to hear to make you happy. Again this is something he must correct on his own, so don't beg, plea or try to overlook his lying because you will hurt yourself for lowering your standards.

Get this liar out of your life, and you rid yourself of all his drama. Your lying to yourself if you think he will change, and work with you on this relationship, that is built on lies.

I am dealing with a similar situation myself, but my ex dosen't lie to me.He just says that he needs time to think. My advice to you is to sit him down and explain that you do want him in your life,but he needs to learn to be more open and honest. If he can't be truthful to you while you are his friend than there is no way that he will be truthful to you in a relationship. I know you say you love him, but can you go through life with someone who is always lying to you?

Okay, I'm thinking your young right?
Well me too and it really frustrates me people answering like 'move on'
Your in love with him. You can't help that.
You have your whole life ahead of you and its not like your expecting to marry this guy right?
Well make it good while it lasts.
If he tries to make a move, as much as it hurts, pull away and tell him your 'just friends'
If he questions this make him know that it hurt you and you want a relationship but you need to know that you can trust him first.
Keep talking to him as normal and he will see how much he misses you if he does want more than friends <-- that's how you work out that much.

Anyway, if he does continue to lie to you, I know it hurts and you can't help your feelings for him but you shouldn't be with someone that lies to you.
If you still think he is a nice guy, stay just friends but forget anything happened and try to move on. He will see you have and this might make him move on with his feelings too.
At least then you will still have a friend.