Daughters grad open house who to invite.
I wrote this once but somereason it didn't submit. So here goes. My ex left appox 9 yrs ago for another woman. My daughter that is now graduating was adopted by him the only father she knows. She seldom visits there claiming she can't stand his wife and her"evil daughter"She wanted her dad to come to her open house , but not the stepmom and step sister who is around 15. So I sent the graduation invite addressed to all of them but did not include and open house invite. She wanted her grandparents invited but I decided if the ex and his wife did not get an invitation I shouldn't send one to his divorced parents and their spouses , nor did I send one to his sister and her family. Now the ex has questioned our other two children why he didn't get an open house invite. So today I spoke with him and explained why and told him he was welcome by himself or suggested he might have a small gathering for her at his house for his family. He said his mother was upset and this is not how things work!! How has anyone else handled these situations with special occasions? I feel my daughter should be comfortable on this day and should I. I don't really want his wife and step daughter here either. She seldom has anything to do with my children, she frequently leaves when they go to their house. Should this of been handled much differently? Please advise