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Why do I always get stuck with the shady ones.

seems to me i can't find a real guy one that isnt shady or gonna fake me out an full of BS i just dont get why i always get stuck with them because im the honest type straight up i know the concept of a relationship im the sweetest thing to my man i just wish i could find a guy that did know the concept of a relationship one actually with a concsious* (cant spell that word) . but.. all the guys around me are never looking for anything serious just friends with benefits type stuff and im getting sick of it i fell for it a few times an i always get hurt jus tired of it an i wanted to know how i could go about finding a guy that isnt fake an one that actually knows how to fall in love....:o

Sometimess, you end up with guys who are players and the ones who cheat on you..

Like my friend, she loved this guy so much, he cheated on her two times, or three, she got hurt but she changed him. He became a better person, and they are getting engaged now.

This is a different thing, I just wanted to tell you this because, sometimes in life, there are guys who just want and like girlss like that and don't do things seriuos.

That's good now you don't have someone that you love very much and that guy is a player.

You have to wait to find someone who can be reall..

Ill help, but I need to know how old you?

Maybe the reason as to why you can't seem to keep a stable relationship is because you give too much of yourself too early. By doing that, a guy will assume that you want nothing but to be friends with benefits.

Be straighfoward with the next guy you meet. Tell him ahead of time that you are looking for a serious relationship. If he doesn't want that then move on. There are plenty of gentlemen looking for a relationship that isn't all about sex.

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Originally Posted by ladieedee21

Sometimess, you end up with guys who are players and the ones who cheat on you..

Like my friend,, she loved this guy so much, he cheated on her two times, or three, she got hurt but she changed him. He became a better person, and they are getting engaged now.

This is a different thing, I just wanted to tell you this because, sometimes in life, there are guys who just want and like girlss like that and dont do things seriuos.

Thats good now you dont have someone that you love very much and that guy is a player.

You have to wait to find someone who can be reall..

Ill help, but i need to know how old you?

Yeah I'm 18...

18... Aightyy..
Just keep things real... dontt hestitate to meet new people..
Have confidence in yourself.. always feel happy. Stay up.
Even I want someone like that. I did meet some. I had some relationships but now I'm not. So yah... Keep yor self cool about everything and wait one day..
HAVE a smile in your face.

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Originally Posted by ladieedee21

18...Aightyy..
Just keep things real...dontt hestitate to meet new people..
Have confidence in yourself..always feel happy. stay up.
Even i want someone like that. I did meet some. I had some relationships but now I'm not. So yah...Keep yor self cool about everything and wait one day..
hAVE a smile in your face.

....aw thankx.. i'll keep it in mind that is one thing i need is a self confidense boost because i always feel really low and guys arent really into me like i can find guys but its never anything serious it goes nowhere an i think they jus want me for well u know ...im not sure im cool with sex but i dont know i think the way some guys treat me is totally different then they would other females ...whatever tho...

Nah... this is life. There are lies, cheaters, players, Everyone goes through it
You should always feel happy about yourself.
Some guys realize that from girls, and the majority of them, wants that self confidence upon the chick.
If you continue to live your life normally and happiley..
That will show your confidence.. When confidence appears... people will appreciate... they will get to know you...
When you, say you want to get to know a guy, show your confidence, be yourself, get to know them, and then they'll like you for who you are..
Feel goodi33... thats what I say... Butt hey.. remember.. I don't meean too much pride.. lol.. im juss sayinqq... =]]]

Could you please write in English?

I can't understand what your trying to say.

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Originally Posted by bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Could you please write in English?

I can't understand what your trying to say.

He is saying...

"Well fisrt of all id like to apoligize for the way you have been treated but listen baby girl not all guys are the same so hang in dere. Now on the real Im a guy and I Know most guys love a challenge we don like things handed out to us.Dah Following are things you should keep in mind the next time you date. #1 don't be so sweet but don't be too cold. #2 don't let the guy know that you madly in love with him but don't over do it. This will keep him guessing. #3 have a positive attitude this will make you feel better... If you follow this [im guessing he meant "this guide"] you know what might happen. Try it out".

That's better! Lol

Thank you!

:) :) :)

You've just noticed this an you're 18? Honey, you are way too young right now to get involved seriously with any guy. Date around and sample what kind of guys are out there before you get involved. If you were 28, I'd say something different but you aren't. You are young and have a lot of life to live before you settle down with someone. Don't take life so seriously right now for the next few years. You apparently have marriage on the brain and the guys don't as they are young.

Take a lot more time to get to know a fella and when you see a red flag, don't hesitate to bail, and move on. Sounds as if you get to deep to fast and then find out its not going to work. Take your time and be more choosy.

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Originally Posted by Da_Don

well 1st f ol I'd lyk 2 apologize 4 d wy u've bn treated bt lstn baby gal nt ol guys r d sym so hang in dur.Nw on d real I'm a guy n I knw most guys luv a challenge w dnt lyk thngs handed ou 2 us.D following r thngs u shud kip in myd d next tym u date..#1 don't b so swit bt dnt b 2 cold.#2 dnt let d guy knw dt u madly in luv wit hm bt dnt ova do t ..Dis will kip hm guessing.#3 hav a positive attitude dis will mak u feel beta...If u follow dis Don guide u knwz wt my hpn try t ou.

...... ha damn ..i think(?) i undastand whatcha tryna say maybe too much computer slang but its cool thankx for the advice of what i could understand of it ... ? :confused:

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Originally Posted by twinkiedooter

You've just noticed this an you're 18? Honey, you are way too young right now to get involved seriously with any guy. Date around and sample what kind of guys are out there before you get involved. If you were 28, I'd say something different but you aren't. You are young and have a lot of life to live before you settle down with someone. Don't take life so seriously right now for the next few years. You apparently have marriage on the brain and the guys don't as they are young.

ha trust me i aint lookin for no marriage ..no damn kids.. nothin like that an i have sampled around alot an i noticed i can't never find a guy thats really there for me or one thats not shady N- full of s*it...its hard to find an i guess im jus fed up even tho i do realize im young but everyones life experiences are different

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Take a lot more time to get to know a fella and when you see a red flag, don't hesitate to bail, and move on. Sounds as if you get to deep to fast and then find out its not going to work. Take your time and be more choosy.

yeah actually ur right ...i'll keep it in mind

Ill give u the truth there are a small number of guythat won't do that to u... just try to straight out a guy that u really like n gett him to be faithful... :) good luck girl:)

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Originally Posted by help_ful101

ill give u the truth their are a small number of guythat wont do that to u ...just try to straight out a guy that u really like n gett him to be faithful...:) good luck girl:)

sometimes changing some1 isnt always the way tho..cuz their like well why would you even bother getting with me if your just goin to try N change me idk... it might work on some .. . .

Hmm I don't know I don't really think that there's a way on going about finding a real guy who wants to fall in love you just have to try guys out and if there the right one it'll just happen... don't go looking for it try to be patient... I know how hard that is because I'm so unpatient it ridicoulous! l.o.l but all I can say and I hope it helps is that when you start talking to these guys let them know flat out that your not going to take any bull and you aren't going to let them use you for ANYTHING ! That's what id do in this situation

I just think you need to carefully who you get involved with. Start by writing a list of quality of guys you want and don't want so it can help when making choice.