OK I'm almost 14 years old, and a girl asked me out a few weeks ago. She is my friend so I said yes. But she has had many boy friends before. It's the 1st time that I'm in a relationship. I've held her hand... put my arm around her a little bit... but it seems like I'm not going up to "par" I just don't know... I like her... but I want her to be happy... what should I do?

Thank you

Well first relationships are often akward when they start with a partner who has done more then the other. Tell her it's kind of you first time and let her know what your comfortable with, if she really likes you she'll apreteate your decisions. If you ever want to go farther just let her know.

Well I told her that I was kind of "new" to it... but what should we do... I'm not very imaginative... and I don't want to get in much trouble

What should you do on dates? Well you're still young, so don't put so much pressure on yourself.. I'm sure she understands that you're new to this. Take her miniture golfing, take her to the movies, or go kart racing, fun stuff like that. Im sure the more you spend time with her the better you'll feel around her. Just remember girls are not turned off by innocence in boys, unless they are bad girls, and well you probably don't want to be dating a girl like that anyway.. just don't worry so much

Well if she goes for a kiss or something just go along with it. You'll get more use to is as you get older. I got my first boyfriend when I was 3 and then my actually real one that wasn't puppy love was when I was 13 and nolw that I'm 14 I have been through like 7 boyfriends. It was akward kissing someone for the first time but you kind of like it.. it's hard to explain. You'll underdstand once you do it. French kissing is a whole other story. You'll discover for yourself when you start. Good luck with this girl. You should try to keep up to what she's into so she doesen't think your boring because your not up to where you are. But she actually might think it's cute that you haven't yet and she might make it funner. Have fun with it.

OK thank you very much
But 1 more thing... I'm like 1 foot shorter than her... and weigh a lot less than her... plus I'm weaker than her lol...
Anything I should do?

Anytime :)

Like wear high heels...

Boys your age haven't reached your growth spert, girls grow a lot faster than boys at this age, so there's not much you can do about it, you just have to let nature take it's course and when your body thinks it's time to grow it will.. believe me, if she's a good and smart girl she'll understand that you're a growing boy, it's OK

Good luck and don't put so much pressure on yourself! You're young have fun!

AND NO Don't WEAR HIGH HEELS!!

OK thanks you again... = Þ

How and when should I kiss her though?

When you're ready!! Kiss her when the moment feels right, and when you're ready, give her a peck and see how she responds. It's like in the movie "Hitch" you go 90% and she should go 10%, you don't want to tackle her and throw your tongue down her throat..

You I understand... but like where... a track meet? Lots of people? No people

Not around many people, when you're alone or in a secluded area, I wouldn't want my first kiss to be around a bunch of people staring.. maybe when you're alone at her house or after a movie

You're overthinking this, hon, which is understandable. Relax. She will signal to you when she wants to be kissed. Plus she's taller, she's going to have to come down to you for the kiss, so it will be easier than you think.

Stop pre-thinking this stuff and just enjoy her company. If something is confusing you or is awkward to you, ask HER what she thinks. She's the best source of information.