Hello I have a concern and wondering if anyone can help me out.

This Saturday coming up my boyfriends family is having a bbq and my boyfriend has invited me to attend. That's fine but I have not talked to any of them since November. They dislike me because my boyfriend and I had gotten into a dispute. We obviously resolved everything and are together happily. His brother's wife had a baby shower last week and I sent a gift to give to her. On camera she said thank you and also sent me a card thanking me very much. But his other brother starts drama all the time and will be there and he will make a scene as he did many of times saying get me out, if I am still here he is leaving with his son and his wife. So I will have to leave (iam not wanting to). I would like to start a family with my boyfriend but first need to get over this hump. I am willing to go I guess just nervous about people making me feel like a fool.

So just wondering what you would do or if you have been in this situation. I will do anything for my boyfriend just this one I am stumped on because they acted like I was not even exsisting until I bought a gift.

Any help is great help

Remember, if you get married to your current boy friend, you are also marrying his family, and visa versa. If there are issues with his siblings, then these need to be ironed out. If he is not man enough to stand up for you and put his brother in his place concerning you then maybe you need to rethink your relationship with him. As this will not change as he gets older.

Anyone have anything else to add? Just wondering.

450donn you helped just want other answers as well.

Befriend the sister-in-law. She's the path to the brother behaving. Focus on her, be her absolute best friend (even is she just treats you normal), and eventually she will rein in the brother.

No matter how nasty the brother gets, be civil and polite back, joking back that you find his rude behavior to be some sort of "joke" you are actually enjoying. That will take work, but done consistently and calmly will end up making him look like the idiot he's being.

Being the grownup means standing there letting children be children, sometimes. This is one of those times. Find all the grownups in the room and get them on your side one at a time. The children will follow.

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Originally Posted by phillies fan

Hello i have a concern and wondering if anyone can help me out.

This saturday coming up my boyfriends family is having a bbq and my boyfriend has invited me to attend. Thats fine but i have not talked to any of them since November. They dislike me because my boyfriend and i had gotten into a dispute. We obviously resolved everything and are together happily. His brother's wife had a baby shower last week and i sent a gift to give to her. On camera she said thank you and also sent me a card thanking me very much. But his other brother starts drama all the time and will be there and he will make a scene as he did many of times saying get me out, if iam still here he is leaving with his son and his wife. So i will have to leave (iam not wanting to). I would like to start a family with my boyfriend but first need to get over this hump. I am willing to go i guess just nervous about people making me feel like a fool.

So just wondering what you would do or if you have been in this situation. I will do anything for my boyfriend just this one iam stumped on because they acted like i was not even exsisting until i bought a gift.

Any help is great help

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Okay so I am going without a doubt my boyfriend really wants me to go. He said he will stick up for me if his brother gets out of hand. I now am concerned about what I should were. It a bbq so something simple I was thinking but haven't seen them in so long don't wunna go looking like an idiot.

Any help is great help

Thanks

Wear a nice sun dress. Make a good 2nd or 3rd impression and be modest, no parents want to see their son in a serious relationship with someone that looks promiscuous.

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Originally Posted by phillies fan

Hello i have a concern and wondering if anyone can help me out.

This saturday coming up my boyfriends family is having a bbq and my boyfriend has invited me to attend. Thats fine but i have not talked to any of them since November. They dislike me because my boyfriend and i had gotten into a dispute. We obviously resolved everything and are together happily. His brother's wife had a baby shower last week and i sent a gift to give to her. On camera she said thank you and also sent me a card thanking me very much. But his other brother starts drama all the time and will be there and he will make a scene as he did many of times saying get me out, if iam still here he is leaving with his son and his wife. So i will have to leave (iam not wanting to). I would like to start a family with my boyfriend but first need to get over this hump. I am willing to go i guess just nervous about people making me feel like a fool.

So just wondering what you would do or if you have been in this situation. I will do anything for my boyfriend just this one iam stumped on because they acted like i was not even exsisting until i bought a gift.

Any help is great help

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Sorry to follow up so much longer than before. I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for their boost of confidence. Everything went great. We all played triva games its was great I was very socialable I got over my shyness and just open up and talked my head off. Now I am aloud back at the families house. Only thing that bothers me is his little brother (the brat of the family) I have not seen him yet so that is going to be a bump in the road. God why can't people grow up?

Thanks for all your help and suggestions!
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Be friends with the sister..

Her brothers are dumbf--ks..

they want to trash-talk