When I have sex. I feel nothing. Like it's the like someone rubbing up against my arm. It is completely pleasureless. The same thing happens with oral sex. I have slept with 6 boys since I became sexually active 3 years ago.

I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. I am so sick of sex that when he wants to have it, I roll my eyes and think of it as a chore. I mean I don't hate it because I like making him feel good and I love him. I told him around 3 months ago that I have never "cumed" and he seemed concerned but still wants to have sex.

I can get a clitoral orgasm from masturbating in this strange position that you wouldn't normally have sex in so that's out.

I don't know what's wrong with me.

Would a doctor help?

I think it would be to your advantage to visit a doctor, preferable a Gynecologist. There may be something that could be corrected in your vaginal area, or more likely with your hormones being out of balance.

It's a shame to be so young and not enjoy something as beautiful as sex. Don't just let it keep on that way. We have so much medical information available to us these days.

Trying different positions, I can only have an orgasm when I am on top...

Maybe I should try going to a doctor or a councerler or something.

Maybe you need someone with a large penis. Or you may need a new partner that is more expirienced

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Maybe you need someone with a large penis. or you may need a new partner that is more expirienced

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Like a porn star?

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trying different positions, I can only have an orgasm when I am on top...

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Hey, me too! Also check out the Kama Sutra book!! I'm sure there's a position in there that is similar to your self-pleasure one. There HAS to be!

I think a bigger penis would just hurt more.

When you love someone, love making feels 1,000,000xs better that just sex with a person. Do you 'love' your current boyfriend? You most likely didn't love those 6 guys, and you probably weren't into it.

Also, not every woman can orgasm (I'm one of them) so don't feel ashamed. Most can orgasm through self stimulation which is normal.

I believe when my time is right, it will happen. Might be today, tomorrow, next month or 10 years from now. When that days comes there will be rejoicing!!

Hey girl.. I know how it feels. I was like that when my boyfriend and I just started having sex. I think I was embarrassed at first and so I never really got into it. I'm not saying you're the same way but maybe you're just not comfortable with it yet, I wouldn't rush it though. Maybe y'all can try different positions? It took us awhile to find a few that work. =)

What rubbish... Some people don't have a clue.

Can I ask you something? When you think of sex, you think what's the big deal? Yeh it feels OK, but only when your plesuring yourself at the same time!
You never feel 'in the mood'

Yeah corse it helps to love your bloke, and relaxing. I agree with that, but what happens if you just 'dont want it'??

Its how you feel, I think it may be hormones... I would speak to your docs, she if you can be referred. But you arnt alone.

ANd Nah, size has nothing to do with it. She could use a vibrator and still think the same!

What position do you masturbate in?

Why do you HAVE to have sex and climax that way?

Some women don't climax during intercourse but do during mutual masturbation, self masturbation, oral sex etc.

I think you are perhaps in the wrong frame of mind, perhaps your partner is a bit too pressuring for the two of you to just enjoy intimacy rather than focusing on the big "O".

I'm sorry to tell you this but have you ever thought that your man don't know what he is doing maybe you should take control

Ooooo and I forgot to say maybe you should think about your sexuality maybe your not even in to dudes have you tried chicks??

I am the same way, most of them I try to do, change the position, take control it's not helping,
I am shame to speak with doc ?
I am feeling really bad