How do you get a shy guy to like you or ask you espetialy when your to nervouse to say more than a few sentances to him

Sometimes YOU have to get the nerve up and approach him. One of you has to do this.

When I talk to him I try to pretend he's just like any other guy I hang out with

You have to make the first move I think-

Sometimes its easier to talk if you're actually doing something together. Then you guys can get comfortable around each other. Invite him to the movies, go miniature golfing, out to eat. If neither of you can come up with anything to talk about initially, you can talk about wherever you are or whatever you're doing. And if you're active, then the silence isn't so awkward. And eventually I'm sure you guys will be more comfortable talking.

I have almost no free time though because of the sports I play so I pretty much can only do something with my friends once a week and I asked and tried to convince him to go to a dance but he said he didn't like dances because he thought they were boring

I guess you should hanq out with him more. You know. That's how you could change a guy, Get to know him really good and havee mad faith with him. Get him to be unshy and hopefully things will get good with you and him. Once you change him, ask him out.

Sitting here complaining that you have not free time and the one activity you tried inviting him to happened to be one he doesn't like is setting up a roadblock for yourself. If you want it you just have to go for it. Sittinghere making up excuses for why it won't work is just wasting everyone's time. If you only have one day to hang out with people, then you have to decide if you want to hang out with your other friends or with this guy. Maybe even invite him with your other friends. If he says he's busy on the certain day you invite ask him to hang ut with you the next time you're free. And just because he said no to the dance doessn't necessarily mean he's not interestedin you, he may very well just hate dances

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

sitting here complaining that you have not free time and the one activity you tried inviting him to happened to be one he doesn't like is setting up a roadblock for yourself. if you want it you just have to go for it. sittinghere making up excuses for why it won't work is just wasting everyone's time. if you only have one day to hang out with ppl, then you have to decide if you want to hang out with your other friends or with this guy. maybe even invite him with your other friends. if he says he's busy on the certain day you invite ask him to hang ut with you the next time you're free. and just because he said no to the dance doessn't necessarily mean he's not interestedin you, he may very well just hate dances

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I agree with you. With him saying no to go to the dance, doesn't mean he hates her or don't like her.

OK thanks I've gotten a little bolder lately around him I've had conversations with him a bit about the book he was reading before class and I yelled hi to him in the hallway today as I was walking down the stairs he and he actually grinned a little he almost never smiles so this was kind of big for me :)

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Originally Posted by Ging1994

ok thanks i've gotten a little bolder lately around him i've had conversations with him a bit about the book he was reading before class and i yelled hi to him in the hallway today as i was walking down the stairs he and he actually grinned a little he almost never smiles so this was kind of big for me :)

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Yahh..
but you know... if you wantt someone... try to get them.. have patience... but not a long timee.. I mean a very long time.. because now you are wasting your time and annoying the guy..
Im not saying now you are... still you have a little time...
try to invite him some where... you know go outt... eatt.. or something like that.. get to make him smilee.. in the hallway.. wave to him.. a soft smile... I know you could do itt..
there will be a dayy... itt... will come where your going to express your feelings..
and if you get rejected..

GURRLL get up and find someonee else... Many out there... =]]

not wasting your time over one person who isn't worth you!

Woo hoo! A grin in the halls is a step. A small step, but still a step. :)