my g/f told me she doesn't have the time or energy to put into a relationship
OK so me an my g/f have been dating for 5 months.well it wasn't even a month an we moved in together.she has two kids ones 19 which stays with her mom for different reasons an she has a 3 yrs old too.well everything was fine we did everything together with the little one an stuff.we couldn't of been more happyt with each other. A month an 1/2 we were talking about stuff between us an if we cou;d spend the rest of our life together an I could. She's 39 an I'm 24.well her brother started stuff an was going back an telling her mom stuff,which then cuased her mom to not like me an he didn't either. So they were telling her what a horrible mother she was an she needs to give the kid up to her ex-husband because she's not a fit mother an she's worthless,an at one point her mom told her she's needs to die.well with all that going on an her ex still giving trouble. We were talking about getting married an she's lik we can't do it right now I want my family to lik u an get to know what a wonderful guy you are.well then come to find out her oldest son tells her he's leaving for the military in less th=an a month for boot camp.well she went off the deep end after that. She didn't want to talk to anyone or be around anyone, all she wanted to do was sleep.well we work together an one day I forgot to call off work after t=a dentist appointment an she got upset.well the next day she tells me she thiks were moving way too fast an asked if I would go stay with my dad for a little while an I was upset but I did it for her.well that was a Friday an we talked an stuff but didn't see each other a lot.but Saturday I asked to coem get some close for next week so I had stuff for work,well we got to talking an she's started talking about she needed a break an stuff well I was flippin out an at one point I told her I'm going to kill myself if I loose her.well then ended up leaving, seen her Tuesday an this is that afternoon after her oldest son just left at 3am that morning an she started telling me about how she loved me an she always will but at this point in her life she doesn't have the time or energy to put into a relationship right now.she jsu wants to focus on being a mom an making sure her boys r save an everything.so she tels me jsu because u take a break doesn't mean it over ben an stuff lik that too me an I guess I'm trying to see if anyoens been through something lik this.shes been through a lot in her life.she was married for almost 18 years an got abused physically an mentally.then she started blamin herself for her boy making the decision to join the military an was saying she cuased it because he had a bad child hood an was around all that abuse an stuff for that many years.so what I'm trying to ask is do u think everythin will be OK.I've been going nuts not being with her an that little kid they mean the world to me an she knows it an I feel lik I lost my own kid u know.I can't eat,sleep,anything.I lost about 30 pounds in 3 1/2 weeks.I can't do anything I even tell myself I dotn want to wake up in the morning because I lost the two msot important people in my life.
