Confused Girlfriend? What Should I Do?
Ok this is my situation. I have looked at many forums and read many of these q & a's but figured each person has a unique instance. I have been with my girlfriend now for 2 1/2 years. She recently told me she loves me but isn't in love with me. We are also no longer boyfriend girlfriend we are now dating. She says that she doesn't know if she wants a relationship with me or if she just wants to be alone. She is also going through this crisis of thinking she is getting too old, being that she is about to turn 25. She has been going out a bit more with friends and partying. I have came out and asked her if it's another guy and she has told me no. She has hung out with a single guy and she has told me he is cute and funny, but she doesn't like him because he is also arrogant. So as you can see she tells me the truth about things when I ask. So I do believe her when she says it's no one else. It's really odd though that sometimes we act just like boyfriend girlfriend and then there are days that we don't get a long as well. See I don't know if maybe this is a commitment issue because she feels she is getting old and can't go out like she use to. I don't know if she is putting me on the backburner and waiting for someone else. I really don't know, she says she is confused right now and can't tell me what she wants because she doesn't know. She says 60% of her wants to be alone, and 40% wants me because I'm a good guy and treat her good and she does care about me. It's really hard to read the signals because some days she is like we use to be, and some days she isn't. She wanted to change her myspace to show she is single but yet keeps me first on the list , etc. She answers my calls when she is out with her friends and doing her thing or returns them in a responible manner, but she has ask me to not as call as much so she isn't always on the phone with her friends. This is something I'm working on but when you are hit with the news like omg she is single and out with other guys it wears on you but I'm getting much better. I just don't know what to do. She tells me I have nothing to worry about right now, she isn't looking, and it seems like she is dating me because she thinks there might be hope or something that will change her mind. She says she doesn't know when she will know at this point, and we can date and still do boyfriend girlfriend stuff but she just wants to turn it down or basically hit a reset button and restart. She doesn't really know if she wants to include me in her activities because I really don't party as much as she does but not because I don't want to it's just because I'm in college and trying to focus on preparing for the future. So I have been trying to convince her that she needs to put away that image of me and give me a chance to go out and hang out with her like we use to in the beginning. So she goes and hangs out with friends and so on but now it just seems like an issue because there isn't an "official" girlfriend title but like she said her word should be good enough. It's funny because she states stuff that is known but not mentioned. Example, well I can't promise you that someone might come along and we just click but I'm not looking. Well that is true even if we were boyfriend and girlfriend, I'm not silly and know that just don't want to hear it said. Lol. It makes it seem like she wants to unravel it all and re-establish rules. It's just a big mess and any advice would be helpful. I'm wondering if this is a commitment issue being that I will be done with college soon and prepared to move in the relationship? I'm wondering if she feels that in the relationship she can't party or do the things she wants? Is this a product of her feeling that turning 25 is old? Is it possible to actually be confused and not know what you want? I mean I don't know the fact that she wants to try or be with me in some form gives me hope and I just want to fix this and be there for her the best way that I can. Any advice would be appreciated.
