Hi I'm a 17 year old girl && I've been dateing the same guy for a year && almost 6 months when we first started like every relatinship hings were great but then I cheated on him with his best friend && then he started lying && disapearng on me && he would hang out with his exes when we would break up && he would talk 2 people that he messed around with before me And say there like his sisters && he would run away from home lie about wo he's with && the calls stopped then he would disrespect me && yell && curse at me && tell me He didn't want me talking to my exes or certin guys && I would but he would never do it for me and when we would break he would go on dates and kiss && talk to other girls and get there numbers && sns and have nude pix sent to him && we just recently broke up because he went back to working with this girl that I think he's sleeping with but he always denies it && she likes him && sometimes tries ² hook him up with another girl all of this after I cheated with 1 best friend && once when he ran away I almost cheated with his other best friend but it never happened and right after we break up he always has a new female friend by the time we get back && he tells me he never cheated on me for the year && 6 months but when were not together he lives the single life && thoes girls are just hoes && he's kissed but never had sex With any of them && that's I'm his wifey now I've spoken 2 guys && hung out wit other guys when him && I wernt together && he's moving next week 2 Florida && he said he wants me to get pregnant so he can stay && we tried but it never worked && now he says when I'm 18 he want me To move with him t Florida && get married && I told him till I'm 18 lets not be together && if we end up moving on then neather one gets hurt and there's not going to be cheating an he says he won't be doing nothing but work && school... what should I Do?? PLEASE HELP I'M SO CONFUSED!

Okay.. To begin with - you can't imply that he's worse than you because you only cheated on him with 1 guy(his best friend none-the-less). He shouldve dumped you that instant. Moving on - you suggest that breaking up is the sort of thing you two do often, and when you're apart he basically whores himself.
Right - so you're in a drama infested relationship where you're both at fault and you're both immature (clearly) - yet you're trying to get pregnant with him because he claims it will bring you two together.. Are the two of you serious or what?
You aren't sure if you want to be with the guy but you were trying to get pregnant with him? Slap yourself in the face and wake up! Do you understand what sort of responsibility comes with bearing a child??
You two break up and get together and have all this hollywood BS going on and you are confused about whether you should trust him to be with him?? What you should do is slap yourself in the face AGAIN. Wake up to reality - and move on from this unhealthy relationship TODAY.
Remove him from your life, and slap yourself again for the third time. Sheesh.. You've got to be kidding me.. You're 17 years old what on earth are you doing? Do you honestly consider yourself mature enough for this sort of life? Do you realize the implications that come with being pregnant??

I agree getting pregnant will not solve the equation. It will not move you to Florida so that's the dumpest idea ever and a selfish reason to bring a child into the world, so count your blessings that didn't happen.

You cheated with his best friend and then was going do it with his other best friends how low is that. That shows your mature level. Your break up and he dates other girls, well at least its none of your friends.

It don't sound like its neither one of you is fit for one another so your need to break up. A relationship is base on truth and that something that lacking and in the future your learn that also if your going cheat not to do it with their friend because if I was a guy I'll be out. And you called the girls he messed with hoes, what does that make you? This relationship seems doom once you opened your legs for his friend and you consider doing it with another one of his friends!

It sounds like you two are perfectly suited to make each other absolutely miserable. If that's your goal, then you've found the right guy. Keep after him until you get him and have a wonderfully aweful life.

If not, well, what's the confusion? You're DATING, so this is really that easy. You're looking for someone that inspires you to be a better a person. Someone who admires you and the life you are leading.

Does that describe what you two have? Doesn't sound like it.

So what's the confusion?

Don't even think he knows the way to a happy, healthy life, and your just another one of his ho's he gives a line to. Get him out of your life, ASAP, as his ideas are dumb, and will never work out for you. Sorry.

Ok I understand what your all saying but I kind of thought being apart for a few months or longer would help things and help us learn to respect each other and not take advantage of each other anymore or maybe we should just be friends for a few and then see what happens... I just wish I could avoide the break up word and for once not run away when things get bad && work through things... but I guess you all think I'm wrong and stupid but I'm just hurt about the fact that it may really be over && confused as to if I should listen to ma heart or ma head

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you all think I'm wrong and stupid but I'm just hurt about the fact that it may really be over && confused as to if I should listen to ma heart or ma head

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I don't think that at all, as I know your young and inexperienced, and need to give yourself a chance to grow, and learn about yourself ,and not throw it away on a guy with a lot of females in his life.

Yeah your right && 1 mor thing I didn't sleep with his best friend we kissed which doesn't make it any better but just wanted ² make that clear