Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2 years now, and we have sex once or twice a week, but sometimes we don't have it for 2 to 3 weeks at someimes, but anyway, 15 minutes into our playtime he goes down. Why do you think that is? He says he gets distracted, what do you think that means?
And I get horny when we go to do it but after we start I feel absolutely nothing, I feel him going in but I don't feel plessure, pain, or anything. Is there something wrong with me? I sure hop you have an answer for me.

Girl!

Neither of you have any sexual passion for each other or for the sex act!

I would guess for different reasons, but... time to have a frank discussion with each other and move on to a period of celibacy and evaluation.

You are probably too young to have intercourse. That's my opinion. :)

Dear KaitlynNjesse,

... we have sex once or twice a week...
If you are a teenager that is quite normal... Hope you two are using condoms !

... but sometimes we dont have it for 2 to 3 weeks...
Nothing wrong with that neither !

... 15 minutes into our playtime he goes down...
I wonder what you mean here : does he suddenly fall asleep, or is there an erection problem?
Besides that : for sex between regular partners a "playtime" of 15 minutes seems rather short. Foreplay should already be longer. Women need that to prepare for sex. That may also the reason why you don't feel anything during sex.

... He says he gets distracted...
Distracted by what? I fear all he wants is a quick sex release (in plain English : just a ""). Two loving partners having sex is much more than just a .

... when we go to do it but after we start I feel absolutly nothing...
Another indication of failing foreplay and a partner who seems to concentrate more on his own needs than on your and/or joined pleasure...

... Is there something wrong with me?...
No. I fear there is something wrong with your partner.
Are you sure that you are "the only one"?
Another reason always to use condoms, even if you use the pill or other prophylactic.

Tell your friend what you like, how you want it, what you experience (and/or fail to experience), and what you like him to do. Make clear that you need much more foreplay instead of a "quicky". If you are for him "the one" he will adapt. If he does not, dump him : he is just (mis)using you !

Ciao !

I hate to oversimplify but....

Two years is generally the course for the highest state of euphoria and passion in a relationship.

If your relationship does not have much else (respect, excitement, goals, commitments, dreams, imagination, adventure) it may be your biology saying time's up.


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Besides sex, how is the relationship? Do you both work, or live together? Your out of high school I assume, but correct me if I'm wrong. Are their drugs, or alcohol involved? So many things can be happening, and a few answers to narrow the field would help.