My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a few months now oral and intercourse... now here's my question I have never even come close to having an orgasm during intercourse but when he does oral on me and I start to feel like I'm going to have an orgasm I can't let him keep going and it is starting to irritate him... but I'm not even sure if it is an orgasm because I have never had one... any suggestions?:confused:

How old are you hun?

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Originally Posted by curious13237

My boyfriend and i have been having sex for a few months now oral and intercourse.....now heres my question i have never even come close to having an orgasim during intercourse but when he does oral on me and i start to feel like im going to have an orgasim i can't let him keep going and it is starting to irritate him.....but im not even sure if it is an orgasim bc i have never had one......any suggestions?:confused:

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Could be that this has nothing to do with your body but some soul searching you have to do to find out why you feel uncomfortable sexually. Could it be his style? A memory of yours you have blocked inhibiting you. It will come to you. Try experimenting with toys to see what you like and teach it to him for the real thing. That way its in a private setting till you get yourself figured out. All kinds of women can't orgasm for a lot of reasons.. inhibitions, phobias, poor self body image and the most common fear of letting go of power. Recieiving an orgasm is a very intense way of vulerability and trust. Maybe you should step back and put sex on hold till you and him get closer. Just some ideas.

I would please like the OP to answer with her age before people give any more answers to this question.

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Originally Posted by curious13237

My boyfriend and i have been having sex for a few months now oral and intercourse.....now heres my question i have never even come close to having an orgasim during intercourse but when he does oral on me and i start to feel like im going to have an orgasim i can't let him keep going and it is starting to irritate him.....but im not even sure if it is an orgasim bc i have never had one......any suggestions?:confused:

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I am 23 and it is not that I don't feel comfortable with him or anybody else I am a very open person but I just don't know why I get ready to orgasm but never let him finish

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but I just don't know why I get ready to orgasm but never let him finish

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You mean let yourself finish don't you. Does something bad happen when you have an orgasm?

Too much stroking gets really tedious and unpleasant if you really aren't very experienced in having orgasms. A good way to get a urinary track infection, too.

I would say, develop your orgasmic potential through fantasizing, masturbation,. get a book by a sex therapist and learn and do exercises to increase your passion.

Good Luck!