He was separated and living with me and went back to his wife
I have been in a relationship with a man I worked with for 8 yrs. He was living with his wife and we were having an affair. He would come to me and say he loved me and wanted to be with me and I would "accept" that thinking "someday he will leave her for me"... when things got bad at home and his wife would make it hard for him (she knew he was having an affair and who it was with), he would break up with me... several months would go by and he would come crawling back to me saying he loved me and couldn't stay away from me, and I would go back to him... a year ago, I got another job just so I could get away from him and this difficult triangle I was in with him... I am in love with him and have loved him all these years, and stood by his side when times were hard for him at home... a little over a year ago, he came to me saying he wanted to live with me and was ready to leave his wife for me, he was with me for 2 hrs. then he said he had to go home, he shouldn't be there with me... while he was there, his wife called me and said I could have him, but when he left to go back to her, I told him to call and tell her he was coming back, he said I needed to do that, which I did... 6 months went by and we had no contact at all... then he contacted me and said he really did love me and it was time for him to be with me, he was ready to be with me, he asked if we could live together and I stupidly said no. We lived together for 6 months, the 3rd time he threatened to leave me, I said go, I can't do this anymore, I'm moving on, I'm done... he was so depressed and on medication while we were together... he said he didn't think about the wife, but I knew his depression strung from that... he said I was his once-in-a-lifetime love and how lucky he was to have me, but the thing is, he never did anything to show me how much he loved me... he never took me out anywhere and he didn't do anything to show me how much he loved me after all these years... he blamed me for him not seeing his children, who are teenagers, when in fact I was the one who pushed and urged him to call them and see them... the wife did everything to keep the kids away from him... when he left, he said he was going to stay with his brother, but he didn't do that, he moved back in with the wife, saying he was living in the basement... I don't believe that at all and know it's all just a lie... I feel like he has just done too much too me for me to ever forgive him... it's all very hard to accept and move on, but I was the one who said I was done, I was moving on, cause he had just hurt me too bad, again, and he went back to his wife, again... I don't think he was ever truly over the wife and I feel like he used me to cater to his ego and make him feel good about himself when the times were hard with her... I did love him with everything I had for all these years, but I feel like he stole that too from me, without concern for my feelings... I'm moving on with my life, but it's hard, 8 yrs. Of memories, good and bad, of us together... how do I move on and find myself again cause I lost myself in him and he tried to control everything about me and my life, and he tried to distance me from my friends and family...