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  • May 13, 2008, 06:05 PM
    Loren3308
    16, married? Baby?
    Well, Im italian and my fiancée is arabic. We started dating and my family flipped out about it at first because he wasn't "white" or "italian" and as they got to know him, they completely adore him. My family comes from a background of nothing but success in college and work wise. So when I came home to tell them I was engaged it toally freaked them out and was completely "unruly" for the family. Well, needless to say we wanted to move in together so we got "legally" married cause our family both don't agree with living together without being married. However, I no longer go to high school and I work full time. But Im going to go to a local college to finish and get my hs diploma in a shorter time. & before everyone thinks we can't support ourselves, he's 21 and owns 2 gas stations and a restaurant in the next town over so we did buy our house. Its 7 months later and I think I'm pregnant and If I'm not he wants to try for a baby now. Our real wedding is suppose to be in November but If I'm pregnant we agreed on next dec. since I've always wanted a winter wedding. Im just not sure what my family would think if I was pregnant before finishing my college plans. Adivce?
  • May 13, 2008, 06:49 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I would suggest at the very least getting your high school diploma before having a baby. And perhaps some college.
  • May 13, 2008, 07:10 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    If you are not, I think you should wait
  • May 14, 2008, 10:06 AM
    Loren3308
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
    I would suggest at the very least getting your high school diploma before having a baby. And perhaps some college.

    I am in school for teaching now. & I'm ALSO in the same college to get my hs diploma in a college (a program they have here) so you can get everything done at once faster. So ill be finish this August with an elementry school teaching degree. Just thinking about the baby because my husband is always working and now ill be teaching next summer.
  • May 14, 2008, 11:16 AM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    Where do you live where you can be done with a teaching degree at 16?
  • May 14, 2008, 12:54 PM
    Loren3308
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
    Where do you live where you can be done with a teaching degree at 16??

    NC. They have a program called huskins & I go from 12-3 there and then 5:30-9-:30 I go to ahs (which is the hs program) you need 28 credits to graduate from a public high school but at this hs program you need 20 & when I left public hs I had 17 credits already. & here in NC you don't need all the requirements like you do anywhere else like in NY where I'm from to be a teacher. You only need 2yrs. Of school & 1 of those yrs. Being "hands on" and that's the yr. I'm in.
  • May 14, 2008, 12:55 PM
    Loren3308
    & actually I'm 17. Birthday was today :]. However, because I did finish early, I can only be a co-side teacher in the class room until I'm 18 & then when I am 18 I can be reviewed to be put in my own classroom.
  • May 14, 2008, 12:58 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    So, you're saying that you got a teaching degree before your high school diploma? I was under the impression that you needed a hs diploma or GED to even enroll in such a program.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:03 PM
    Loren3308
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
    So, you're saying that you got a teaching degree before your high school diploma? I was under the impression that you needed a hs diploma or GED to even enroll in such a program.

    Dual enrollment. & ill get my hs degree from the school in the middle of August & if I pass the state test for the teaching degree, ill get my certificate for that in the end of august-beginning of September.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:05 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I understand that, but most schools require you to have a high school diploma or GED to enroll in a teaching program.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:06 PM
    Loren3308
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
    I understand that, but most schools require you to have a high school diploma or GED to enroll in a teaching program.

    No, that's why its called huskins. Huskins is only for students still in high school. They have it here for cosmetology, computers, and teaching here. I think they may have it for cars too. I'm not sure.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:07 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    Hmm.. Interesting.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:09 PM
    Loren3308
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
    Hmm..Interesting.

    Its kind of neat.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:16 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    In my research it appears that you must have a 4-year bachelor's degree to be an Elementary School Teacher, and what you are desribing is that you are currently in the process of earning your Early Childhood Education degree, correct?
  • May 14, 2008, 01:39 PM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
    My thoughts are...

    You're 17 and haven't gotten to fully enjoy life yet, let alone youth. When your friends are out having their teen fun, you are at home with the baby to take care of, a home to keep up with and a husband to be there for. Having a child can be hard and you can't play around. You are responsible for him/her which means very little time to go out with friends, much less for yourself.

    I suggest dating this boyfriend of yours for a bit longer, getting an education in (finishing high school should be your top priority), get a part time job, have a blast with your friends and enjoy your teen years. Please.

    To each their own though. I know I most definitely couldn't have done it at 17.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:48 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I agree, try and enjoy your youth while you still have it. Don't try to grow up too fast.

    And BB-I think she is already married, so the dating thing is kind of void.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:57 PM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
    OMG married at 17? Sheesh...

    Maybe they are old fashioned. Familys 'back in the day (not sure when though :) )' used to get married kind of young too, didn't they? Wasn't it in the 1800's? I don't know.

    All I know is, is that getting married that young today isn't common, but like I said, to each their own.
  • May 14, 2008, 01:58 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I know. I'm 22. I'm not ready for marriage or babies.

    Not even close. Although I love my boyfriend with all my heart!
  • May 14, 2008, 02:23 PM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
    I would like to have children soon but not when I was 17.
  • May 14, 2008, 02:25 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I want to start trying around 26-27ish. After I'm married, of course.

    Also, something else. If her husband owns three businesses, I'm wondering what HIS age is.

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