Ask Me Help Desk - Child abuse and neglect

I recently called child protective services on my friend. We have been friends for a long time (2ND grade). Her husband is a drunk and is very lets say VIAL and its almost everyday he's like that. I tried to get her to leave before she had this baby, they had one about 4 years ago that they didn't even get to take out of the hospital because cps was called and they didn't even get to take him home. Now they have this new baby. I'ts very sad. He just turned 1 recently and isn't doing anything. Babbling like they do learning to walk nothing. She keeps him in his crib his head was all mis shapen he isn't sitting up she just let him lay there.He smelt horrible 9worse then a outside toilet) and had bleeding diaper rashes. I did not know it was as bad until I visited her and brang him some clothing and food. They would rather buy games and beer with their money they are losing their house because of his drinking because he drink it all up, she don't know that I called and I don't thinkI should even tell her because its all about the little baby, she don't understand why they took him and I called her by her name and said because of all these things she's in denial I suspose I sort of feel bad that she lost her kid but, if she would have been a good mom then I wouldn't have had to call. I don't think people should have babies if they are going to treat him like that. It makes me wonder why we have to take test for driving , in school and even in some jobs and we don't have to do anything to have kids. I still blame myself that I didn't visit more so he wouldn't have suffered as long as he did.
Does this make me a bad friend or a bad person

This makes the father and mother criminals and I wish they could be thrown in jail for treating a baby like this. And it makes me sorry for the 1000's of babies who don't have people like you brave enough to call the authorities.

And I would not feel bad she lost the child, she make a choice of her life and husband over the care of her baby, Obviouisly the mother has some mental disorder or addiction that is perfered over the baby

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

This makes the father and mother criminals and I wish they could be thrown in jail for treating a baby like this. And it makes me sorry for the 1000's of babies who don't have people like you brave enough to call the authorities.

And I would not feel bad she lost the child, she make a choice of her life and husband over the care of her baby, Obviouisly the mother has some mental disorder or addiction that is perfered over the baby

It makes me sad because of the response that came from her mouth, they wait almost a year to take him from me after I got attatched.
I saked her if she wasn't attached at the moment she found out about her being pregnant? She said no that getting pregnant with him was a accident. It's just really sad because she wasn't raised like that.
But I am happy that the baby will get a better life and get the treatment he needs and finally be happy maybe for the first time

Christina, you did the right thing. Also, to tell you the truth, they still have a whole year to work on things, to improve their lifestyle so they can get their baby back. If she is really willing and then it will happen. You made the right choice considering they were mis treating the baby, who was going to call? The baby? Nope, it is up to caring individuals like you to make that call, as long as you had no doubts that he was being mis treated.
If you both are still friends, and if she wants to get her baby back, then support her and be there for her. Maybe this is just the thing that needed to happen so she could get it together? Hugs, I hope you don't go feeling guilty, she brought this on herself, now it will be time for her to turn things around!

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Originally Posted by startover22

Christina, you did the right thing. Also, to tell you the truth, they still have a whole year to work on things, to improve their lifestyle so they can get their baby back. If she is really willing and then it will happen. You made the right choice considering they were mis treating the baby, who was gonna call? The baby? Nope, it is up to caring individuals like you to make that call, as long as you had no doubts that he was being mis treated.
If you both are still friends, and if she wants to get her baby back, then support her and be there for her. Maybe this is just the thing that needed to happen so she could get it together? Hugs, I hope you don't go feeling guilty, she brought this on herself, now it will be time for her to turn things around!!

See here is the problem, I've called them more then once over the short year of his life. It took them a while to do something about it. I am a mother of a 3 year old daughter and she is truly a mirical baby (Born 3 months early with 1 kidney and a hert murmmer and I almost died during being pregant)
I sat up on the phone one night till 3 or 4 o'cloce in the morning trying to tell her that I will help her gat her life together, her husband don't know whereI live I offerd to take her and her baby in and pay for everything her and the baby needed offerd to pay for a divorce everythng . She called one night with the baby screaming in the back ground and told her tha I couldn't come and get her but gave her 2 shelter numbers for wemen and childern in abusive homes and it wasn't until 3 days later when I got ahold of her so I thought she went and then she told me that she didn't even write them down. She isn't mently impared to make "choices"of her own. She just thinks more of her husband then she does of her baby. I went to clan her house and everything . She had 100's of animals in the house and she would never take them out to use the bathroom and just kept letting them have more babies stat animal control has sited her may times but where was pee and poop everywhere where sh'd just leave it for her husband to clean up and he was too busy
Having fun " to take care of his family. They buy no food nothing ! It was expected to be just given to them I'd give to the baby but not for 2 grown ups that can fend for themsselvs.
Oh yeah it's even worse because she is 28 and he 41. I'ts just a sad sad thing. The case worker said that she and her husband can't get the baby back in a year. They have to sighn himover to state for good because there was sevier medical neglect and physical abuse to the child. Apperantly, she told the worker that when the baby was a few days old he tried to sit on the baby.
I don't in a way feel bad for calling it's the fact that I had to call that bothers me,that someone can treat a innocent baby like that and that I knew them is what bothers me the most.

Christine, I just hope that baby gets a good home to go to. You did the right thing! This really is a sad story, I know it is hard to accept it, especially when you know the people who are doing wrong. I understand, I really do. I wish that baby a good life. And I wish for you to keep on giving your child great love and care;)

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Originally Posted by christinacraig

See here is teh problem, i've called them more then once over the short year of his life. It took them a while to do something about it. I am a mother of a 3 year old daughter and she is truly a mirical baby (Born 3 months early with 1 kidney and a hert murmmer and i almost died during being pregant)
I sat up on the phone one night till 3 or 4 o'cloce in the morning trying to tell her that I will help her gat her life together, her husband don't know whereI live I offerd to take her and her baby in and pay for everything her and the baby needed offerd to pay for a divorce everythng . she called one night with the baby screaming in teh back ground and told her tha i couldnt come and get her but gave her 2 shelter numbers for wemen and childern in abusive homes and it wasnt until 3 days later when i got ahold of her so I thought she went and then she told me that she didnt even write them down. She isnt mently impared to make "choices"of ehr own. she just thinks more of her husband then she does of her baby. I went to clan her house and everything . she had 100's of animals in the house and she would never take them out to use the bathroom and just kept letting them have more babies stat animal controll has sited her may times but where was pee and poop everywhere where sh'd just leave it for her husband to clean up and he was too busy
having fun " to take care of his family. they buy no food nothing ! it was expected to be just given to them I'd give to the baby but not for 2 grown ups that can fend for themsselvs.
oh yeah it's even worse because she is 28 and he 41. I'ts just a sad sad thing. The case worker said that she and her husband can't get the baby back in a year. They have to sighn himover to state for good because there was sevier medical neglect and physical abuse to the child. apperantly, she told the worker that when the baby was a few days old he tried to sit on the baby.
I dont in a way feel bad for calling it's the fact taht I had to call that bothers me,that someone can treat a innocent baby like that and that I knew them is what bothers me the most.

All things aise. Putting aisde you did the absolutely right thing calling on her. Why the f*** are you friends with a crazy woman like that. I don't care if you knew her 50 years, a person like that doesn't deserve such a good friend as you. She's sick, letting her animals poop everywhere.

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