About 2 weeks ago my boyfriend asked for a break. I pretty much left him alone for those 2 weeks. Recently a lot of guys have been commenting my Facebook and I went to a party with some of his friends and he wasn't there. The day after the party he imed me and started flirting and acting the same way he did as when we were going out. We talked for over 2 hours which was the longest we talked since we broke up. He was also saying stuff like "your cute" and "i heart you" do you think he's jealous from the guys talking to me or he wants me back?

Were you trying to make him jealous?

He probably wants you back becaues you left him alone, that's what guys do. If they break up with you and you don't call them, you don't act all desperate you just act like they don't exist, they're like "hey, wait a second, I miss her!" and they start calling, so it probably wasn't a jealousy thing, it was probably that you left him alone and he realized what he lost.

I think that what ever, or whoever, he was chasing for those two weeks dumped him.

Now, he wants to come running back to what he had, before he decided to chase something else.

Sure, he could have heard about guys talking to you at the party, but I don't think that alone would bring him back.

So, are you going to take him back?

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Originally Posted by Rockstar714

Were you trying to make him jealous?

He probably wants you back becaues you left him alone, thats what guys do. If they break up with you and you don't call them, you don't act all desperate you just act like they don't exist, they're like "hey, wait a second, I miss her!" and they start calling, so it probably wasn't a jealousy thing, it was probably that you left him alone and he realized what he lost.

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A little bit because I wanted to see what he would do if he saw I had other guys in my life. Our conversation last night made me think he wanted me back but I'm still not sure because I know guys think a lot differently than girls.

If you try to make him jealous that's just insecurities. Its not healthy to do that to try to get a guy back, its kind of scandalous (and most guys fear scandalous girls).

What about the conversation made you think he wanted you back?

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Originally Posted by Rockstar714

If you try to make him jealous thats just insecurities. Its not healthy to do that to try to get a guy back, its kind of scandalous (and most guys fear scandalous girls).

What about the conversation made you think he wanted you back?

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The things he would say "like your cute" and when he said bye he was like bye<3 (he hasn't done that since we broke up) he was just being really nice and asking about my mom and stuff. We were also video chatting and we used to do that a lot while we were going out.

I think you should distance yourself more from him at this point... If he realizes that you're there whenever he comes back to you - and you respond to his "needs" when he's bored or when he has nothing to do, then he'll begin taking you for granted..
I don't think if he was out at the pub with his friends he would want to run home to video talk with you. Try and make yourself a little more unavailable next time.. Don't ask him where the two of you stand - just keep your cool..

I completely agree with nickshehe...

The more available you are to him, the less he will think "hey, I lost something here".

Distance yourself, and make him get the cajones to say "hey, I want to be with you" none of the flirting on IM (thats a cop out)