It has been 3 years since I had a healthy relationship with a man, by this I mean a serous relationship. Most men I meet show interest in the beginning but they later lose interest.
I have been told by friends, family even strangers that I am a very attactive woman. I am wondering what could be a problem here.

That is hard to figure out without knowing more about you and your situation. Please tell us some additional things about yourself, if you would. Like, what interests and skills do you have? If you are employed, what do you do for a living? Have you been married and do you have children? Those would do for a start.

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Originally Posted by kokurwe

it has been 3 years since i had a healthy relationship with a man, by this I mean a serous relationship. most men I meet show interest in the beginning but they later lose interest.
I have been told by friends, family even strangers that I am a very attactive woman. I am wondering what could be a problem here.

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I have same problem... I just don't even try anymore.

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Originally Posted by eosk

i have same problem.......i just dont even try anymore.

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I think that things need to be considered on a case by case basis here. If someone does want to have a relationship with someone, then it would be best to try to help them to achieve that goal, since that would be why they are asking the question in the first place. If someone doesn't want to even try anymore, than they probably wouldn't be asking questions concerning about how to have a relationship again.

Could it be where you are trying to meet men? Bars is not the healthiest of places to establish a relationship. Get involved in things like hiking clubs, biking clubs, things like that and see what happens. I think people who are interested in a serious relationship look in places for people with similar interests as their own.

So much depends on where you are meeting the men and what they are interested in. Looks while cause some first attraction, it is your personality, who you are, what are your interest, what do you talk about on dates, what type of common backgrounds do you have with people you date

The only thing you're letting us know is that you're attractive. What about everything else... personality wise? Are you too clingy?

People say you're attractive, but do you feel attractive (it's not always about what other people think about you; it's about what you think of about yourself) if you come off as an insecure person men don't like that.

It could be a lot of reasons you can't find a man... being attractive is one way to catch a man but looks can only get you so far.