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  • May 11, 2008, 06:33 AM
    bigsmile
    My ex boyfriend called me and always starts to chat
    2 weeks ago my ex called me just to know about me, next day sent me an sms to tell me that one of my favourite bass player were on TV. Next day at night I answered him and then we talk over 30min on the cellphone. At the end I said something like "life's beautiful" and he said that I will always be special even if he had a lot of ex girlfriends. 2 days latter he called me at night to we go out. We went. Was nice. He said I'm cute, he talked about a guy I know now, like he wants to know about what going on between me and that guy. When he bring me back home, he did exactly the same as when we were together, he turned the car off and we talk for some time inside the car. Talked about everything, but it was getting late and I say bye bye, gave him a kiss goodbye like I do with everyone. It was weird because he didn't kiss me at same time I kissed him, and he said "i didnt kiss you!!" andi gave him my cheek. It was so weird...
    I can't be sure but I felt like he would like some hug or a kiss.

    Next 3days we didn't talk, but I saw he had a new song at his myspcae. It was his first original song (he's musician).it is a sad song about after break up.
    After that, every time he's online and I'm online too, he always starts to chat with me.

    One day we chat and I said goodbye, put appear offline and next minute he was off too. As I was waiting..

    I don't know what to think about it. I still love him, but I don't want to false expectations. Don't know what to do.. someone give an advide, please!
  • May 11, 2008, 07:50 AM
    talaniman
    For the whole story.
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2773776,
    You opened the door, and he is trying to walk through it. I have no clue as to his motives, but yours are well known.
    Quote:

    I still love him, but I don't want to false expectations.
    Find out what his motives are, but keep in mind he is an ex for a reason.
  • May 11, 2008, 11:51 AM
    nickshehe
    Tal the link doesn't work : [
    And I don't recall the history behind the break up, but seeing as though 99% of them on here are similar, I'll go on.
    Like tal rightly said, he is an ex for a reason.. you are SINGLE because something went wrong.. Yes you love him.. most of us here love our ex's. But are you willing to go through what you've gone again?
    Hypothetically speaking, if you were together again, would you not handle things a little differently?
    Wouldn't you be a little bit more cautious? Surely you wouldn't run back into it without wearing a helmet this time around.
    What I'm trying to say is I don't think things will be the same again.. so you shouldn't get your hopes up.. and maybe you should reconsider wanting to be with him again..
    Like I previously said most of us want the same thing as you do.. but some things are better left dead.
  • May 11, 2008, 12:24 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    So ask him what he has in mind, often one ex is just loney and is a "user" using you to not be lonely but not wanting back into a relationship.

    Why did you two break up, has those issued been solved yet?

    But if you want to know what he is doing, ask him.
  • May 11, 2008, 01:05 PM
    bigsmile
    He broke up and never gave one reason. At first week I asked him but he never wanted to talk, and when we talked he never said "was because of...".
    I guess he needed some time alone.
    Now I'm busy because school, when I get some time I'll ask him what he really wants.

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