I think its time to put things behind us
Ok, I need some suggestions. I broke up with my ex about a year a few months ago. I'm not going to get into detail as to why we broke up but what I will say is that I have grown up a lot since and looking back, I can't believe I behaved and said the things I did. Bottom line is I have come a lonnnnnnnng way. I truthfully do not want my ex back but I do realize that not being in touch with her is not healthy for me either. She tried hitting me up a few months after the breakup but I was still pissed so the conversation didn't go so well. That was a year ago and since then there hasn't been any contact of any kind. 6 months ago I sent her a text for her birthday and she replied by saying thanks and a few days after (our birthdays are five days apart) she sent me a text wishing me a happy birthday but I never replied. She even tried contacting me through social network sites but I denied all attempts because I felt that it shouldn't be on her to decide when we could be friends. Our friendship should pick back up when I want it to because I was the one hurt by her. Anyway, although I've moved on, I still feel like there is a part of me that is missing. I dated this girl for 6 years through high school and college, and I knew her for another five years or so before we even started dating. In short, although a creepy thought, she was like a sibling to me. In fact when she left I felt like one of my siblings had passed away. I really don't think its healthy for me to deny myself her friendship. Granted, she hurt me, but it wasn't by the fact that she left. Leaving was the best thing she did for both of us. I was hurt by the WAY she left instead. I've forgiven her for that as well because we were both inexperienced and didn't know better. I am now ready to reach out to her and see if she wants to start talking and eventually be friends again. My questions are these, what should I expect? What topics should I bring up and which should I leave out of the conversation? Is this a good idea or not? Where should I arrange this conversation to be had? I was thinking of grabbing 1 drink (too many drinks and things can get ugly... hahaha) close to where we both work... good idea or bad? I don't want it to seem like a date or anything, and since there's so much I have to lift off my chest, I don't want it to be during my lunch break... I was thinking after work instead. There is more of a closure for me than it is for her honestly. Let me know guys, and no worries, I am confident that this girl wants to talk but she thinks that I absolutely hate her and that I want nothing to do with her... Sooooooooooooo not true. Well, at least not now anyway... lol. Thanks for your thoughts and suggestions.