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  • Feb 22, 2006, 04:27 AM
    andrew2004
    Is it wrong
    Is an-- sex wrong
  • Feb 22, 2006, 05:36 AM
    fredg
    Hi,
    No, it isn't wrong; it's up to the individual persons.
    But, one has to be very careful with sexual diseases, and wear protection.
  • Feb 22, 2006, 06:39 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Yes and no

    Depending on the age, the people involved, the status of the relationshiop.

    Almost anything can be good or bad depending on how or why
  • Feb 22, 2006, 03:23 PM
    CaptainForest
    As long as the sex is between 2 consensual people, then it is not wrong.

    Although if one has a another girlfriend and then engages in sex with someone else, then that might be morally wrong.
  • Feb 22, 2006, 03:31 PM
    DrJ
    Isn't it illegal in some states??
  • Feb 22, 2006, 04:12 PM
    CaptainForest
    Huh?

    Since when is sex illegal? I better contact my attorney then. :p

    There is an age of consent law, although the poster didn't identify his/her age so I am assuming that he/she is a teenager at least.
  • Feb 22, 2006, 04:28 PM
    DrJ
    I don't think he means JUST sex he said "an-- sex" where I believe the "--" stands for "al" (in other words: sodomy)
  • Feb 22, 2006, 04:55 PM
    CaptainForest
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DrJizzle
    i dont think he means JUST sex he said "an-- sex" where I believe the "--" stands for "al" (in other words: sodomy)

    Ahhh, anal sex. I totally missed that. Lol

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DrJizzle
    Isnt it illegal in some states????

    Good point, I think it is.

    It's not illegal in Canada though.

    And is it wrong? I will go back to what I originally said. No, it's not wrong as long as both participants consent to it.
  • Feb 22, 2006, 05:02 PM
    CaptainForest
    Quote:

    DrJizzle agrees: LOL I wonder if everyone else noticed that
    Lol. From the look of Fred and Fr Chuck's responses, I'd be willing to bet no.
  • Feb 23, 2006, 01:19 AM
    nero2
    Sex, it self is not a wrong thing But I encourage you to have safe sex. The best is to have sex with only the one you are willing to be with forever. That what I think.
  • Feb 23, 2006, 05:04 AM
    andrew2004
    I am 27 years old and have been married for six years and my wife thinks we need to try something new
  • Feb 23, 2006, 11:24 AM
    nwsflash
    Andrew as long as you & your wife are up for it! Nobody can tell you what to do in your own bedroom as long as your both willing and happy to give it ago... Plus welcome to the forum, you say that your wife wants to try something new?? As she said something about the anal sex? Because you need to make sure she is up for that too if your going to try it!

    I would also ask have you read books like the JOY of SEX, and the Karma Sutra these are books packed with idears that you can both read and think about and maybe spice things up a little.
  • Feb 24, 2006, 03:57 AM
    Chery
    Legal or not, anal sex has been used by many countries for centuries as a type of birth-control. If you are going to try this practice, make certain that there is enough lubrication as this is a very delicate place and it can be painful if not taken slowly at first, and maybe even stroking the clitoris to help excite and relax the sphincter muscles. Also, even if you are married, it's best to use a condom due to the e-coli bacteria and will prevent possible infections.

    The books suggested are a good bet for both of you to check out and decide on what you want to try.

    Good luck. P.S. Maybe your wife might be interested in visiting a 'swinger's club' - just watching might excite her too.

    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_9_11.gif Keep it painless, safe, and clean - and have fun learning what you like to spice up your marriage.
  • Mar 18, 2006, 08:34 PM
    samjg
    No way anal sex is defiantly not wrong! That is just like saying sex is wrong people do this for enjoyment so I don't see there being a problem wit it
  • Mar 18, 2006, 11:31 PM
    nero2
    Anal sex is not wrong if u both agree on it. Remember to put more lubricant as to reduce unnessary friction. And the most important is to start if slow. If is for both to enjoy not a compettion.
  • Mar 19, 2006, 12:49 AM
    Myth
    You might try a numbing lube the first few times it is very painful if rushed and the numbness relaxes the sphincter. Go to an adult store see what your both interested in and start slow...
  • Mar 19, 2006, 01:17 AM
    samjg
    I agree! You need to have both of you two agree that this is what you both want, you need to be happy with it. Also don't ever not use protection, you must always use it! Also use a lot of lube this will help, try and go slow to see if this is working for the both of you, if not don't push things!this is often an umcomfortable experience!
  • Mar 19, 2006, 12:22 PM
    Chery
    Again, as long as it is done with care and not forced, with enough lubrication and other stimulation to relax the spincter, it should be no problem.

    You can also talk to your doctor about this - they are your best bet in explaining the finer parts.

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