Well, I am 19 years old... me and my now ex boyfriend broke up about a month ago. We were together for almost 1 year and a half. We have been fighting a lot for the past months and finally it was too much for either of us to handle. His family and friends hated me, and my friends and family hated him too. Both of us made a million mistakes that teared the relationship apart. I loved him a lot and still do. One of the biggest problems we had was the fact that he started doing LSD. I am well aware that there is actually nothing chemical that harms the body or anything like it and it is quite safe, or so he says. But for me its still a drug and something I highly disapprove off. I cannot take it, It destroys me to know he's still doing it.
Apart from that, days before breaking up I had a horrible accident (I was extremely drunk and flipped over my car). Instead of him being with me and trying to get through the hard times he came to my house to yell at me about how I had acted around to friends of his. Now I know this sounds extremely immature. Its like a middle school fight me and his friend had, and he just needed this as an excuse to break up with me. He is the type that needs to fit in, and be approved by his friends.
I am not blaming him that our relationship died. I do know that I acted horribly too, and that is both our faults. And I know we both need more time to get over the events that led to our breaking up.
Now the thought that scares me is that he has forgotten about me and that he no longer cares. That he is indeed moving on and I am clearly not. I think of him a lot... I can't help it. He was my first true love, and the first person I truly opened myself to... I am very reserved with many things and I trusted him completely and he just devastated me when we broke up
My best friend even send him an email saying that he can't play around with me like that (because he had broken upo with me so many other times and kept coming back and every time he came back I took him back) but in his answer to my friend he said that his life was basically easier without me and more simple. That he had no intention whatsoever of getting back with me.
My question is, do you think he is over me? That he really no longer cares? That he forgot about me, and truly does not want to be with me ever again?
I know that I will wait for him for months. And I know that even if I don't want to wait for him, subconsciously I will.
Thank you for taking your time to read this and answer...

P.F.

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Originally Posted by floyd_89

Well, I am 19 years old.....me and my now ex boyfriend broke up about a month ago. We were together for almost 1 year and a half. We have been fighting a lot for the past months and finally it was too much for either of us to handle. His family and friends hated me, and my friends and family hated him too. Both of us made a million mistakes that teared the relationship apart. I loved him a lot and still do. One of the biggest problems we had was the fact that he started doing LSD. I am well aware that there is actually nothing chemical that harms the body or anything like it and it is quite safe, or so he says. But for me its still a drug and something i highly disapprove off. I cannot take it,. it destroys me to know hes still doing it.
Apart from that, days before breaking up i had a horrible accident (i was extremely drunk and flipped over my car). Instead of him being with me and trying to get through the hard times he came to my house to yell at me about how i had acted around to friends of his. Now i know this sounds extremely immature. Its like a middle school fight me and his friend had, and he just needed this as an excuse to break up with me. He is the type that needs to fit in, and be approved by his friends.
I am not blaming him that our relationship died. I do know that i acted horribly too, and that is both our faults. And i know we both need more time to get over the events that led to our breaking up.
Now the thought that scares me is that he has forgotten about me and that he no longer cares. That he is indeed moving on and i am clearly not. I think of him a lot....i can't help it. He was my first true love, and the first person i truly opened myself to.... i am very reserved with many things and i trusted him completely and he just devastated me when we broke up
My best friend even send him an email saying that he can't play around with me like that (because he had broken upo with me soo many other times and kept coming back and every time he came back i took him back) but in his answer to my friend he said that his life was basically easier without me and more simple. that he had no intention whatsoever of getting back with me.
My question is, do you think he is over me? that he really no longer cares? that he forgot about me, and truly does not want to be with me ever again??
i know that i will wait for him for months. and i know that even if i dont want to wait for him, subconsciously i will.
Thank you for taking your time to read this and answer......

P.F.

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I recommend you move on. He will definitely come back some day... as long as you are waiting to accept him and have no future of your own, he will come in and then move out again. The question is... will you continue to wait for someone to be playing with your emotions?? I think not! Move on and continue with your schooling to better yourself. You will find another true love out there. JUST MOVE ON AND DON'T GET STRESSED OUT ABOUT IT. IT WASN'T MEANT TO LAST ANYWAY!

I agree partially with the above poster, but to say he will definitely come back is false. You both seem to have demons you need to fight, your drinking is obviously an issue as you had an accident from it. His LSD is a huge issue, and to say it is a chemical that doesn't harm the body is false. I do not know where you got your information from but just Google LSD and you will find a huge amount of information about it.

I think you both are better off without each other until you can sort your own lives out, take what you know and move on from this disaster. Rule of thumb, if the family and friends don't approve of the person then there is a good reason for it.

I'm not sure if asking whether he is really gone even matters. To be honest, you seem better off without him.

I also agree with Rome that neither of you seem ready for a relationship. It is not fair to put yourself in a relationship with someone if you are going to take risks like drinking and driving or he is going to be doing drugs. That isn't fair to anyone that either of you two date. I don't mean this to be offensive, but I think you both need to learn and grow up a little bit.

As far as the LSD goes, it might not chemically harm the body but thinking you can fly and jumping out a third story window would definitely harm the body. You also need to be aware that drug users have a wonderful habit of justifying their use of drugs (How many times have we heard "Weed isnt a drug"?)

There is too much life out there for you to be worried about a getting back with someone you barely get along with. Be glad he is gone, and live your life drug free.