I have been seeing this guy off and on for a year. I met him not long after my husband of six years and I split up, bad timming. So I talked to him but enjoyed the attention of other men also and he could not deal which I understand. Recently we started talking a lot more which made me realize how much I am in love with him and how perfect he is for me. The problem, He has casually stated before that he is not ready to get married yet and He is leaving for Japan in about 9 months for four years and then on to anywhere in the world. I know he cares for me and that we would make a great couple, but I just don't know if it is possible to turn things aroung in such a short time, and I am afraid if he leaves we will never see each other again. I am a big believer in what is meant to be will but also this is our only life and I don't want it to leave me wondering what if!!

If he is going to be leaving soon, why not just tell him what you are feeling. What do you have to lose! The risk of him saying he doesn't feel the same out weighs the risk of not telling him at all. You will lose him if you don't say anything for sure, but maybe you will have a chance if you tell him. Good luck with your choice!

Don't feel pressured to jump into something with this fellow at this time. I'll bet your still building your own life, and the idea of him leaving makes you want to rush things along. Don't do it. Love yourself, and let things fall into place, as he can make a decision also, and does he cancel his plans for you? I don't think so. Let him leave, and balance your life with other things besides love(?) for a man. Love YOU first.