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  • May 4, 2008, 04:40 PM
    bobbyherman123
    Girlfriend break up cause she cant handle boyfriend at the moment
    My ex and I was getting along great until one day she avoids talking to me but talks to my other friends on instant messaging and phone calls. I let it slide and didn't worry about it too much. But it happened again and again and again for 5 days in a row and I got concerned. So I talked to her about it one day and we got in a argument. I asked why she was doing that and she said she needed time to think. I was confused but agreed with her to give her space to think about what she wants to do.

    Another week went by without talking to her. She did it again by avoiding talking to me. Then about a week later after fighting with her, she decides to break up. She said that she couldn't handle a boyfriend. She said that she is going through a lot right now. She is failing two classes, friend problems, grounded from parents, grandparents on death bed, and is moving (same city but different house). She said she can't give her full attention to me and that she is just hurting me and its better for us apart. I know that she is telling me the truth because she tells me about her problems everyday when we went out. My friends told me that was the truth because my ex said it to my friends too and they are best friends. I respected her decision and didn't argue back.

    She told me that she wanted to still be friends. I thought about it and told her that I'm not going to contact her until I am 100% over her because I still have feelings for her. Its been 1 week of no contact with her and I've been thinking a lot in this week. I wonder if I still have a chance with her again once all her stress and problems are solved out. Should I wait for her because I like her a lot and consider her as my first love. I don't want to throw this relationship that easily. But I'm afraid that if I do wait for her, what if after all those time of waiting, what if she just moves on to another guy and I wasted all that time waiting for her.

    What should I do. Please give honest answers. Your comments will help greatly. Thanks
  • May 5, 2008, 07:17 AM
    talaniman
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    I don't want to throw this relationship that easily. But I'm afraid that if I do wait for her, what if after all those time of waiting, what if she just moves on to another guy and I wasted all that time waiting for her.
    She wants a break, give it to her, and instead of waiting on maybe she will solve her issues and come back, build your own life that you enjoy without her in it. Leave her alone. Do what you said, No Contact until you are over her. Yes, its over.

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