I broke up with my girlfriend of 1.4 years about a month ago because she stressed me to the max and cheated on me. I've been hanging around this new girl and I seem to really like her. I met her through a friend and we've hung out a lot. She kissed me on the cheek the second time I saw her, and she always hugs me. We've watched a movie together and I've even walked through the rain to her house when she was sick just to see her. I was supposed to walk her home for the last 3 days and she's come up with random excuses. Yesterday we were supposed to watch a movie but she cancelled and made it for today and she still isn't here. I called to find out where she was and her sister answered and told me she was busy. The girl then answered the phone and I asked her if she was coming, I didn't get a straight answer and then I heard some guy in the background telling her to stop talking to me and hang up. This was 2 hours ago, she's still not here, and I'm guessing she's not coming. Is this girl really worth it, and does she really like me? She's made hints that when I go with her to get her lip periced I have to hold her hand and kiss her after, she's also the one who asked ME to walk her home. So yeah, does she really like me? Or am I stuck in the bloody friend zone?

Thanks,
X-Z3R0

Hmm... doesn't sound like a good situation.

Do you know if she's single? Might that be a controlling boyfriend you heard in the background when on the phone?

I guess she's interested in you -but whether she wants you as a friend, as a boyfriend, or nothing at all, I can't really tell you.

Maybe she /is/ stuck in a bad relationship and is hoping you'll rescue her. Maybe she just likes male attention and so is playing around.

I wouldn't bank all your money on this one girl when there's obviously some sort of problem (blowing you off 2 or 3 times in a row? Not good). Why don't you try meeting some other girls too? You don't sound like you know this girl well enough to warrant you being so fixated on her...

I'm sure she's single. She did tell me about a guy named Ty that sold her a cell phone and she made out with drunk at a party, who also had to pick her up yesterday? This could either be "Ty" or the stepdad, not sure. When she hung up it was just, Well I Can't Talk *click*. I heard she is kind've a... uhh.. sl*t for lack of a better word. I've never heard of any boyfriend she would've told me by now. She's killing me though and it's so hard not to care..

Sounds to me like Ty wants a relationship, she wants out and she likes you but feels obligated to him.

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Originally Posted by X-Z3R0

I broke up with my girlfriend of 1.4 years about a month ago because she stressed me to the max and cheated on me. I've been hanging around this new girl and i seem to really like her. I met her through a friend and we've hung out a lot. She kissed me on the cheek the second time i saw her, and she always hugs me. We've watched a movie together and i've even walked through the rain to her house when she was sick just to see her. I was supposed to walk her home for the last 3 days and she's come up with random excuses. Yesterday we were supposed to watch a movie but she cancelled and made it for today and she still isn't here. I called to find out where she was and her sister answered and told me she was busy. The girl then answered the phone and i asked her if she was coming, I didn't get a straight answer and then i heard some guy in the background telling her to stop talking to me and hang up. This was 2 hours ago, she's still not here, and i'm guessing she's not coming. Is this girl really worth it, and does she really like me? She's made hints that when i go with her to get her lip periced i have to hold her hand and kiss her after, she's also the one who asked ME to walk her home. So yeah, does she really like me? or am i stuck in the bloody friend zone?

Thanks,
X-Z3R0

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This girl does seem like she likes you, but it looks like she is not ready for a relationship yet. For now I would keep her in the friends category. Like you said you broke up with your last girlfriend because she was cheating onyou, and it seems like this girl would do the same. I would protect yourself from another heartbreak.

Since we can't really tell what she thinks based on your perceptions, all we can do is encourage you. To that end, I say as long as you enjoy the way she is making you feel and you are enjoying the process of pursuing her, then continue. If you aren't, then stop.

It doesn't matter if she really likes you or not. It doesn't. It only matters if you are interested in pursing HER. Based on what you know today, make a decision.

Look, I totally went after a girl I actually KNEW didn't like me. She rebuffed my first 5-6 attempts to get her to go out with me, but I was determined. She finally relented, and long story-short... we've been married 23 years.

You just need to know what YOU want and not make her "mind" so important at this point. Later, as you actually succeed or fail to get close to her in a meaningful way, then you can change your plans, or continue them.

Men know what they want, make a plan, implement the plan, evaluate, then start the next phase. Go for it soldier.

What's going on in her head is not what's going on in your head. That could possibly be an ex-boyfriend or a crazy father. The point is, you're feeling the way you are feeling because you are trying to rush into this. For me, I would take it as it comes. If she doesn't want to see me today, fine. I'll keep doing my daily routine and not think about it. If and when she comes around then you go from there. If she doesn't come around, then you knew you were wasting your time and on you go. It's good to have options. You're a single young man, what more can you ask for?

Mate she does not want to know, if she wants to be with you she would be with you. I sugges you stop contacting her, it is hard if you really like someone, but if there is anything there in her feelings she will come knocking at your door. Don't be the door mat in this, have some pride and think about it clearly. Would you allow someone cr*p at you or would ou walk away. Think very carefully and if she calls, make up an excuse you cannot see her if she asked play hard to get, don't give in and see her on her first call, make her chase you, have some fun!!