I've been having really strong feelings for my manager, she is a woman and lesbian.. I am 19 and have been in a 4 year relationship with my boyfriend. But for some odd reason I find my manager reaallly attrative. I don't know why, but I like her A lot. And it's a different feeling. I'm trying not to make it obvious because I know she is in a current relationship with her partner, which is my boyfriends manager. But she is just so... I don't know how to explain it. She has a nice body, and a pretty smile, funny personality, and I personally just think she's hott, and I'm just so curious about her for some reason. She has absolutely no idea about my feelings. She was there when I first started working at this place about over 2 in a half years ago then got transferred about a couple weeks of me being there. Now she is back and has only been back for about 2 weeks, and I have been having these feelings. What is going on? Is this normal? Thank you for your time.

Hi confused,

It is normal to find other's attractive and admire the positive things we see in them. But whether Bi or not, the result is the same... She's off limits :(. She has a partner and you have a boyfriend.

You could just be more curious then anything but be sure and respect the fact that both of you are currently in relationships.

She may be hot, but she's taken. That applies to any sort of relationship bi or not.

Don't be so hard on yourself and fret about what you are, just be who you are, which right now, is currently in a relationship. You may want to ask yourself if you are happy in your current relationship, or are there reasons, you mind and eyes are wandering so much.

Don't jeopardize your job while you explore your sexuality. Maybe we can't help who we are attracted to, but we can say how we deal with it. As we grow and learn, those questions will be answered, so its very important you do nothing to make a problem for yourself, as you learn about yourself. Be patient.