My kids father is in and out of there lives, he will be around for six months and then stop all contact with them. Me and there father get along really well so I really don't understand why he is doing this to them. I have gottin to the point to were I can not handle it anymore I would like to know if I could get him on the child abandonment law?

Simply put NO! You can check out a couple other threads on abandonment I know I have answered the same question about six times in the last four days. So look those up and then if you have any more questions please ask.

It goes something's like this... if the person has not had contact for the 6 month period, you file the paperwork with your lawyer/or state and then your former partner is sent a letter of notice to the last known address they were living (registered mail). You post notice in the newspaper too I think... something to the effect of what the letter states obsolving them of their parental rights. They have 30 days to respond and if they do not, then they have no parental rights and the court awards you full custody. That is the short version, please check with a lawyer or child custody services in your state for details.

Grounds for terminating parental


In extreme cases, the court can terminate the rights of a parent, legally severing the relationship. The seriousness of such an action demands clear and convincing evidence that it is in the best interest of the child.

To terminate parental rights, a person, agency or institution must file a request in the chancery court of the county where the child lives. The mother, legal father and biological father become parties in the action, and the court appoints a guardian to oversee the child's interests temporarily.

Several different grounds exist for such action, including repeated abusive acts by the parent or a parent's abandonment of a child under the age of three for six months or over age three for one year.



A parent's long-standing addiction to drugs or alcohol, mental illness, and severe physical disabilities that prevent fulfillment of parental duties are grounds for termination.

The court will consider such action if the parent-child relationship has largely disintegrated because of the child's apathy toward the parent or the parent's attitude or conduct toward the child, including abuse or abandonment.

Several different criminal offenses by a parent against the child can lead to termination of parental rights. These crimes include rape, sexual battery, touching a child for lustful purposes, exploitation of a child, felonious abuse or battery of a child, and carnal knowledge of a step- or adopted child or child of a cohabitating partner.

Terminating parental rights is the most extreme action a court can take. If the court believes contact between parent and child should continue, if only minimally, it can appoint legal custody or guardianship of the child to a third party.

However, if the evidence convinces the judge to terminate parental rights, that relationship is legally severed. The parent no longer has rights concerning the child, and the child is no longer the parent's legal heir. This action, however, does not affect the parental rights of the other parent.

Following the ruling, the judge places the child in the custody of an appropriate person, agency, or institution.

First why , keep collecting your child support and let him go. But if he is coming back every few months I doubt that will be considered leaving them,