Breaking up with someone who you love, but know is wrong for you is very devastating. I need to let go but don't know how. I try to improve my life a little every day by doing something for myself. I try to surround myself with positive people, but it still hurts when I am alone. I feel like I don't know truth from reality and I am scared of people now, like no one really cares. How do you let go?

Find a support group. Either through a local church or other organizations that can help you deal with the grief.

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Originally Posted by actlikemywife

Breaking up with someone who you love, but know is wrong for you is very devastating. I need to let go but dont know how. I try to improve my life a little every day by doing something for myself. I try to surround myself with positive people, but it still hurts when I am alone. I feel like I dont know truth from reality and I am scared of people now, like no one really cares. How do you let go?

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It's grief, pure and simple, and you have to go through the steps and only time can help. Sometimes support groups are helpful; sometimes all the "you think you had it bad, I had it worse" can be destructive.

Time. And maybe you'll never let go but it will get easier. It's loss, it's like death but worse because the other person has a new life... without you.

Lots of back and forth about the stages of grief but they are (in theory):

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if... )
Depression (I don't care anymore)
Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)