I thought I would try to get some help from people outside of my situation so I thank everyone in advance for any responses.
I happen to fall in love with my best friend and we were together for about 8 months. Our relationship was up and down because she would go into these distant/quiet cycles where she would just need time to herself and 'process stuff'.. which I always supported because I knew her and supported that. Just prior to her breaking if off with me, she was quiet and distant but I thought nothing of it. Things seemed normal to me. She would talk about how she could see a future with me and I trusted her with my heart and friendship.
She then broke up with me suddenly and here's the kicker:
we have a mutual friend (my closest buddy) who I introduced her to about a year ago. We all hung out all the time and they got along really well. I trusted him with everything, even shared intimate talks about my girlfriend.
After she broke up with me, I thought it was bit weird that she just kind of disappeared and didn't want to see me.
I finally convinced her to see me and she ended up admitting to me that my buddy confessed to having feelings for her before we broke up. She said she had feelings for him too. She also admitted to making out with him a mere few days after she broke up with me (I'm assuming it was a mere few days after). I freaked out and never saw either of them since. It's like she lead me to believe one thing in our relationship together but actually being dishonest about it.
I contacted her recently because I still value our friendship and wanted to work things out. She was more concerned with defending him than deeming our friendship or what we had for that matter important at all.
Why do I feel crazy like "I'VE" done something wrong? Are they in denial about the damage they've caused? Do they just not care? This is all a new experience for me so any insight would be appreciated.
~ sosoconfused.