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  • Apr 29, 2008, 05:24 AM
    qetuo
    Positives of break up
    Hello everyone... recently my situation with my girlfriend worsened and we reached a breaking point... I am frustrated with her behavior and she's frustrated with mine.. but I am not able to get over those happy and intimate moments which we spent together... what are the positives of breaking up ?
  • Apr 29, 2008, 07:00 AM
    Destro3000
    In my experience? None. But I'm bitter. I'd say wait before you make a decision that could impact the rest of your lives. BUT, if that's what you want, then don't string her along.
  • Apr 29, 2008, 07:42 AM
    nickshehe
    It depends on what type of relationship you are in and what type of person you are..
    If you feel like you're drowning in your relationship and you keep having to justify your every move, going out with friends e.t.c e.t.c.. then the positive of breaking up is that you are your own man all the time..
    I prefer being in a relationship than being alone.. even though when I'm alone I still "interact" with girls..
    Whatever the case, don't stay in a relationship if you're not happy.. and you are sounding like you're maybe considering replacing her with someone else if what you're worried about is the benefits of breaking up...
    The question you should ask yourself is if you want to be with her or not, not to balance your options.
  • Apr 29, 2008, 10:30 AM
    workedtoohard
    I find that breakups can be positive for your business/financial focus.
  • Apr 29, 2008, 01:46 PM
    JAMIET
    From my own perspective from a recent break up of my own... my house is still clean when I come home! LOL!
  • Apr 29, 2008, 01:50 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    1. My bank account, instead of going downward, has been increasing... by a lot.

    2. I started working out after our breakup (never had time when we were together)... I have lost 20 lbs, and I look dead sexy.

    3. Instead of buying a condo for us next year, I took that money and bought a gsx-r 750.. . that's right.

    4. I go out with my friends a lot... and I've forgotten how much fun it was.

    5. I find myself getting better grades and focusing better at work.

    6. Girls love a guy who just got out of a relationship. Not sure why, they just do. In fact, they flock.

    7. Overall, I realized that I just have more time to do things I enjoy doing, but had to give up in order to spend time with her... i.e. reading, watching movies, listening to music, working out, going to the range every once in a while, going bar hopping with buddies, etc.
  • Apr 29, 2008, 06:19 PM
    talaniman
    You can be free, and find someone who is more compatible with you.
  • Apr 30, 2008, 09:43 PM
    qetuo
    Thanks a lot for your views people... the situation looks like she's going to dump me after all... that's how things look now... rather I feel that I have already been dumped... she ditched me.. she didn't even want to talk over things and make things better... please suggest me something... should I stop thinking of her ? How to ? I can't get over those beautiful moments :(... I'm ditched! Feel like nothing is left in the world for me now .
  • Apr 30, 2008, 09:48 PM
    workedtoohard
    Ahahaha you aint' moving on. You are just trash talking. I know because that's the talk I used to say (I hate her but I can't forget the good moments). I would look for more friends and try to befriend girls and then you will have options. Note: I did not say cheat.

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