Why we didn't get Joint Custody?
We are from Alabama. We took my Husbands Ex girlfriend to court for Custody or Joint we were really wanting custody. But in the end of a year of going to court we didn't get niether , But she got sole and all rights, all we got was vistion the 1st mon. for 4 hrs every Sat. 2nd mon was 6 hrs every Sat and the 3rd mon 8 hrs every Sat , but My husband mother has to be with him for the first 3 mons to pick his little boy up and return him. And the visition has to be at his mothers house not ours. And the 4 th mon he can start coming to our house but only for 10 hrs every Sat, 5th mon is 12 hrs every Sat and then the 6 th is 12 hrs every Sat then at 3 yrs he can start staying over night , But if he misses any of his visitions they start all over at the 1 st mon... when he ask about him she don't tell him nothing he has to stat a fuss with her to get anything out of her about his son , as in Doctors etc.. He has no say so in nothing.. we have to drive an 1 1/2 hr to pick him up. And the Child support was based up on his job he had before we went to court and he was filling for his disabilty he wasn't working at the time of going to court. I just don't really understand why she got Sole and all rights . I mean we have no police record or nothing we own everything we have cars , house etc.. And she has OCD and she's a depressent , she lives with her Grandparents and she has separation Anxiety from her grandmother she can't be away from her more then hr at a time.. She has even sent us pictures of him on her bed by her night stand where she had pills and pill bottles on it where he could get to them we gave it to our lawyer at the time . And pluse she draws a SSI check for what ever is wrong with her... I mean where are OUR rights to him . I mean we got nothing but that visition and that's it... I mean we get NO pictures unless my husband mother gives them to us and My husband parents gets him every weekend and we know nothing about it and he gets to stay over night with them.. I just wish someone would help me understand OUR rights? Please:confused:
Why we didn't get cusdoty part 2
Yes we had a lawyer no the Judge didn't get to hear it it was settled out , but we didn't agree on none of the things that HER lawyer wrote in the papers.. The only other side to the story is that she has been giving us Hell about Him being Married to me and NOT her that the real problem that the other story like I have told her she needs to go on with her life and leave us alone and let him see his child the reason for the visitions like that because she doesn't want me around there little boy . Because she is upset ans angery with him because he married me and Not her and My husbands family all know that and the lawyers and her family knows that it has been made plan and clear that they will do what it takes to end our marriage.. I mean she just can't move on 2 yrs this has been going on.. and the other day he asked about his son and she told him to get a nother lawyer if he wanted to know anything I mean its something everyday. I mean she has told lies on us about following her around we live 1 1/2 away from her and I have 4 kids of my on.. I don't have time for childish games.. And another thing is that baby stays sick all the time and she does too all the time she has to have all eyes on her and her way.. I have got ugly emails from her and her family threathing me.. that why I was asking I mean I know there's NO reason what so ever not to have him with us.. I think we got a bad lawyer and she didn't do her job . I called her ( lawyer) when I got the papers that we didn't agree upon for a month she never return no calls.. I had to call the clerks office to try to kep the jugde from signing them.. I called another lawyer and fax the papers to him and like he said there was nothing keeping us from getting joint cusdoty and he is a lawyer for DHR ? So something went wrong somewhere?