I have been with my husband for almost 5 years. When ever we have sex he is always very fast. I think he has only done something for me like maybe 5 times. I love him to death and would never leave him, but I really need to figure something out. Does anyone know what we could do to make him last a little longer besides going to the doctors don't have the money right now.

I read up on that if you give him a handjob, and stop just at the point where he is about to ejaculate, STOP and do other things, it will delay him a lot

You will need his willing participation in this so have you sat down and talked with him about it.


The second round takes a lot longer so if you got him off say orally the first round then played bummpin uglies the next round you'd get more out of it.

What frequency do you have it now... every day, every few days? If you have at it every day he isn't going to be so quick to finish than say if it was once a week.

If he's not lasting the distance, try improving the foreplay. Make him pleasure you before he's allowed to get some. :P

Talk to him about it. My husband and I had this problem. Now if he feels like he is going to ejaculate, and I am still wanting more, he will pull out prior to ejaculation, just for a couple of seconds. During these seconds we kiss, touch etc. so the mood does not get lost, then he is ready to go again. Hope this helps!!

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Originally Posted by Smartestbabe

I have been with my husband for almost 5 years. When ever we have sex he is always very fast. I think he has only done something for me like maybe 5 times. I love him to death and would never leave him, but I really need to figure something out. Does anyone know what we could do to make him last a little longer besides going to the doctors don't have the money right now.

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My Man was fast too, but I am not. He would tell me to hurry, of course that made me not be able to orgasm at all. He learned to hold off and wait on me, he bought me toys. Women need romance and fore play, guys just need a couple of minutes.

Good suggestions have been made.

Oral on you to orgasm is one option if he's too fast, not to mention it might prime you for another orgasm with intercourse.

The method described for withdrawl and learning to hold back is good. You or he can also do with hand stim... training him to hold back.

Use of a condom to decrease sensitivity.

Positions that you favor, like woman on top, that reduce some of the motion a man might like and increase the stim you might need.

Also, do you ever self stim during sex. There are positions that my partner would never get to orgasm with if she didn't self stim. It can make a difference.

In the end, it'll come down to what he's willing to do to try to improve things, and that mean you talking to him openly.

I wonder what would happen if he took a "Viagra" type product?

I have no experience of knowledge with this, but it sure would be worth the cost of a trip to your physician to get him a check up, erectile questions answered, and possibly a prescription.

If he masturbated in the morning, he could take a pill later on in the day and MAYBE he would be good to go for a while!!

Yeah, see a physician. :)

If am man can attain an erection normally, a doctor will not prescribe one of the "miracle" drugs. These drugs are for erectile disfunction.
There are lots of ways to help him out. There are condoms with desensitizing creams, you can just practice on him so he can learn control,, etc. You guys sound like everything is right,, you just need a little "tune up" to bring things up to par!! Good Luck

Fyi

ED drugs are not just for those who cannot achieve an erection... it also helps sustain quality erections

But the problem here doesn't seem to be ED.

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Originally Posted by Smartestbabe

I have been with my husband for almost 5 years. When ever we have sex he is always very fast. I think he has only done something for me like maybe 5 times. I love him to death and would never leave him, but I really need to figure something out. Does anyone know what we could do to make him last a little longer besides going to the doctors don't have the money right now.

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Look him in the eyes... say.. baby... we are in this together... so focus on me and then I will focus on you... It's totally not all about intercourse... It's about making each other... experience... orgasm... what ever it takes.
Experiment with each other... AND Girl demand that your needs be met. Because if your needs are met... his will definitely come into his own.