When an ex starts hating you.
Hey. So I've already been here talking about my breakup and how it ended up (Gf of 5 years moved on about a month after we broke up... tried to get her back and it failed). Anyway, what's going on now is a bit... weird. I can't quite understand it, maybe anyone here has some ideas.
So we broke up about 7 months ago. We had dated for 5 years, we both made mistakes (the same ones in fact, on an equal level) and in a stupid move I broke up with her. For the next few months, we still talked (we had been best friends for about 10 years) a lot, saw each other a bit, but with school and the weirdness of being broken up, not nearly as much as we should. She asked me to take her back, I didn't cause I was stupid and had some stuff to fix in my life. Eventually (december) I asked her to work things out. She said no, as she was seeing someone else who was "fun".
As time went by, however, she started seeing me and our relationship in such a negative way that she started making stuff up about us. I wasn't the perfect boyfriend by any means, but it was never that bad. I know I pushed her away a bit by pleading (I know I know, bad move... I am ruled by my emotions).
In the 3-4 first few months that we were broken up though, she swore up and down that she would never give up on our friendship, that she would always be there for me, etc... She toyed with me, saying she wanted to see me one day and then cancelling.. until she said we shouldn't see each other... to cutting off all contact to this:
She's now really hostile towards me, calling my sadness at our breakup (I do still lover her... no matter what happened) pathetic, that she's glad I didn't take her back, that she doesn't want to see me for a very loooonnng time and pretty much spitting on the last 5 years of my life.
My question is this: what the hell? I guess she just doesn't want me around if I want to be with her... but I don't understand how she can just erase/replace me and the last 10 years of our lives and see it all as some bad part of her life.
Also, she's now trying to weasle in on all the activities and such I do with our mutual friends, knowing that I wouldn't be there if she was... I feel like she's trying to run me out of town.
I would understand this reaction if it came immediately after the breakup, but we were OK for like 4 months initially and now she won't even be my friend. Now I will admit that I couldn't hang out with her and her new boyfriend (who has admitted that he's just using her) however I am still willing to be her friend. I love her and would do anything to have her part of my life in any way, and I would never do anything to go against that even if I want her back.
So yeah, I just don't understand why all these negative feelings are coming out now.