I posted my story awhile ago, Short story is I was with her for a little over 2 years and treated her great, While I know she cared allot for me she could not get stronger feelings so she left me 9 months ago and went back to a ex boyfriend.

This is her 3rd time back with him, (2nd time they lived together 2 years) she left him because he drank allot, left the faith and verbally abused her. She is 43, he is 55, she told me he has changed and also back to his faith and now she's living with him and planning to marry this fall, I guess she never got over him and he did pursure her back. I have been doing NC and sometimes she contacts me.

We used to go to a prayer chapel together sometimes and I was there a month ago and she walked in, I said Hi, and she said its nice to see you, I could tell she had been crying, I was about to leave and she asked me if I would vist with her, it was just small talk and I did not ask her what was wrong, but I did notice she was not wearing her engagement ring, we had a nice visit. I did not talk about us or the guy she was with.

Well yesterday I was at church and she walked in, (she rarlely goes to this church) she was alone, I approched her at the end of the service and walked out with her, I could tell she had things on her mind but I did not ask, she looked troubled, and did not smile once, not like her at all. I did see she had her ring back on. She just asked how my family was and how I was doing and some other small talk, it was cold out and she had a cold so I said I won't keep you and that was it and said Goodbye. I sent her a email saying it was nice to see her and that I hope things were going good and hope she feels better, I never got a reply, no reason to I guess.

A friend who she emails sometimes said she is having very bad back problems and hurts allot, he thinks she is down because of that and maybe having 2nd thoughts about this guy she's with, but she did say to him she is getting married this fall. And that he should enjoy being single.

While I had a hard time losing her I am doing better and even planing to meet new women, I am ready, while I still care about her I felt bad because I sense she is troubled, a friend at work who sees her from time to time said she has changed and is not the same friendly person she used to be, he said she looks like she lost her best friend when he sees her. While I would love to be with her again I need to move on now to other things and if she comes back in my life someday then I will deal with that if it ever happens and I need to assume it will not.

I guess my question is what do you think is going on with her ?

Whatever she might be in; she needs to figure it out by her own. Don't interfere now or she will end up blaming you for things if they don't go right. Give her sometime and pray for her. If you can ; just slightly show her that you are there is she wants to talk to you. But whatever it is; let it come from her side. Don't be the first to take any steps. Go on with your life in the mean time ; and keep on praying for you as well as for her.