So let me tell my story like this. I started a new job and soon after started conversation with a woman who was married but thinking of divorce. I as a divorcée myself counseled her and recommended she try anything she could to work it out with her husband. We became close at work and continued our conversations by phone after working hours. She was obviously interested in me but she was frustrated because she knew I did not want to break up her family. (She has 2 kids 3yrs old and 9 months) One day she told me she had served the husband divorce papers. A week or two latter she came to my home for an after work party. She stayed with me that night and we were pretty much always together after that point on. We had many conversations about our relationship and how happy she was and how much she thought I was the greatest man ever. We talked about me being a rebound and she always reassured me that that was not so. We talked about how she was always in long term relationships and she would fight to keep her relationships. A month latter my roommate pulled a fast one and took all my rent money and split town without paying that months rent. I had a week to move out and my girlfriend had just lost her job. So a decision was made between myself and my girlfriend that I would move into her small place I would help pay her bills and as soon as we could afford it we would move again to a larger place that our kids (I have 2 part time) could be comfortable at. My girlfriend decides to become a full time student and live off financial aid and unemployment. I know she was board always being at home while I was off at work. One Sunday her ex-husband (still not through the 6 month legal waiting period to finalize the divorce) shows up to drop the kids off after visitation. Well he (the ex) has a girlfriend with him and for some reason the ex and his new girlfriend hug. I was standing there and did not think anything of it. I did ask my girlfriend if she was jealous and she said no why when I have you. Well the next day I called her up as usual on my lunch beak and she is running errands around town. We started to talk as usual then she says oh look there is my ex-husbands girlfriend driving the truck that my girlfriend and her ex had fought over. So after another minute or so my girlfriend says she is jealous of her ex and needs some time alone. She tells me out of the blue that we are over and she is going to go out of town for a week to her sister’s house. I try to talk to her but she won’t let me and she says she has made up her mind. She goes and I don’t try to stop her but that night she text saying that she is sorry for hurting me but it is hurting her too. She says she needs to figure out what she wants. She says she worries that she can’t be what I want her to be but she feels like she would have done and said anything to have me but can't live up to it. I give her space for a few days even though it is hard. That Saturday I had flowers delivered to her sisters house and my girlfriend calls to say thanks and tells me she will be home the next day and that she will not make me any promise’s but is going to sit down and talk to me about it. The day she is suppose to be back I get a text from her saying that she won’t be home till the next day and that she wants me and my stuff to be gone and that it really is over. I can’t move m stuff in 4 hours so I wait and go to work the next day. After work I go to the house and she is home. I go in to see her and her best girlfriend and some guy I thought was with the friend. I try talking to my girlfriend but her whole attitude towards me has changed. I just want to talk to her but she won’t have it. She says you just need to go. And she says she tried to hook up with my ex-husband while I was gone and that didn’t happen so I hooked up with someone else. (I latter found out was the strange guy in the house) I left and all this week I have tried to talk to her but now for some reason I am her enemy and all she cares about is me getting my stuff out. I called her on Friday to make arrangements to get my things. She said she was leaving town for the weekend so I don’t care what you do at the house.( she is taking the new guy back to where he lives in the sisters area) I have everything packed now and will go get it after I post this. I just don’t understand why our relationship has come to this. Why I am her enemy, we did have something special and she never denies it. We never had any major problems and she told me that if her heart was into we could have fixed any problems. Was I just a rebound? She is very special to me and I don’t want to see us just walk out of each others life’s completely. I would have done anything to fix this. What should I do? Sorry for the length.
