:confused: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 & half years we have a daughter together she is 18 months old but since she has been born our sex life has diminished.
I am too tired and he spends all weekends at his friends house he comes in at 4 am in the morning on the Friday and Saturday.

We argue over the smallest things, we never spend any quality time together!
I have been telling him that I want to move back to england and he is not too keen, I have sons there and feel that I need to be back in the country so my daughter can grow up knowing her brothers,
The problem is my boyfriend is an arab so I am not entitled to go out to a nightclub or just socialise I am 28 but feel that I am 50 I need some advise
Thanxs

You have a lot going on and stress is all through it. You have to decide what is truly in your heart, to be a Mom and wife, or to take a break, go back home and be a single Mom surrounded by a loving family.

It's hard to decide what you truly want when faced with all that you are going through.
Take a good long walk alone, and imagine it both ways. * trying to work things out with your boyfriend. Sitting down together and getting to the route of why things have changed so much.

Or

Go back to England and do the things that are most in your heart like being with your family.

I think it would be best to try and work out, with your boyfriend, things that are not right first. Some things truly need fixing, but the good part is, they are fixable if both is willing to put forth the effort.

Focus on right now and write down those things you wish would be better and have a good long loving chat with your boyfriend. Acknowledge the fact that both of you are going through some stressful situations, so the talk with your boyfriend should not be a "blame game".

You both have to decide what is most important and put that first.

I do wish you the very best.

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Originally Posted by misslesley26

:confused: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 & half years we have a daughter together she is 18 months old but since she has been born our sex life has diminished.
I am too tired and he spends all weekends at his friends house he comes in at 4 am in the morning on the Friday and Saturday.

We argue over the smallest things, we never spend any quality time together!
I have been telling him that i want to move back to England and he is not too keen, I have sons there and feel that i need to be back in the country so my daughter can grow up knowing her brothers,
The problem is my boyfriend is an Arab so I am not entitled to go out to a nightclub or just socialise I am 28 but feel that I am 50 i need some advise
thanks

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I don't know, maybe it is a cultural thing but him staying out all night is just not acceptable. You're not married to him, the relationship is not functioning properly, you have children in England, why are you not there?
He is your boyfriend, not your husband. Do what is going to be best for you and your daughter. Would you want this life for your daughter?