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I like this girl in my school but I don't think she even knows I exisit im13 and I can't get her out of my head and when I c her I feel light headed please help me I'm to shy to to talk to her... :(
"EDIT"OK I found out she knows who I am but yet I don't know if she likes me I talk to her through myspace and she helps me with learning sometin over it do you think I got a shot?
There is no shame in letting her know how you feel. Just remember, you will never know until you ask! She might feel the same way about you!! ;)
If you talk to her over myspace then tell her that you like her!! That way, just in case she doesn't feel the same way, it may not hurt so bad! Like I said before, you never know until you ask!
Ye but I'm just scared if the answer is no then I will be sad for like a year that's what happened last time I tried to ask some one out and they sad no "I never have a GF btw"
Don't be sad for a year, be happy in yourself and healthy in your thoughts.
Remember dating is a numbers game, the more you ask out the more comfotable you get, and the more confident you become, it just like everything else you need practice. Don't stop at the first "no" you get.
- You are 13.
- You go to school.
- You like a girl.
These are all facts.
- Terrorists might blow up the subway tomorrow. Perhaps I shouldn't take it to school
- The Democrats will probably lose the Presidential Election in 2008. Perhaps I shouldn't' donate my money to them.
- The girl I like might say she doesn't like me back. Perhaps I shouldn't say anything.
These are all risks. Yet, we can either face them on, or not.
I ride the subway every day. A terrorist might blow it up, and I could die. I take a risk.
Lesson in life: You will only achieve greatness if you take risks.
Yes, she might say no. But…what if she says YES? Look at what you gain…a girlfriend!
And if she says no, well, there will be another one. This is already the second girl, right? And you are what, only 13? Tons. And if you're like me, 1 month later, you won't even remember what you did the previous month.
Well, to put it boldly, you may and you may not. I think you need to take that annotative and let you're feelings be known because you'll be kicking yourself later IF a chance indeed live there somewhere.:o
On the other hand shyness can get the best of us, especially around that someone we have a thing for. Though, in the end, the result will be you dreaming OF what could have been, and it will hurt much more than at least giving it a go.
BELIEVE me, I was once shy myself and I have lost out and HAVE wondered what could have been because I couldn't strike the nerve to confess or even start a conversation. Shyness is honestly one of the worst traits when it comes to the ones who we think are special because they usually don't know we think them special.:rolleyes:
rando, check with your peers, and see the real life - you will probably get a lot of 'no' answers throughout life, and not just in relationships, so learn to live with it.Quote:
Originally Posted by rando
If you don't take that risk to get to know someone, how are you going to grow up - all alone? You don't want that - and a few rejections in life will not kill you - we all survived a few - that's how we can be here to reassure you that it's OK, and urge you to try life and start living it fully and normally.
If you have a good relationship with your parents, ask your Dad how it was for him growing up - I bet he could tell you a lot of 'horror stories' about getting to know girls. But he did not quit, otherwise you would not be here. So go out and live life.
Good luck, and keep us posted.
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I know pretty much everyone here is telling you to take that risk, but I am going to try and offer some advice on how to take that risk. First instead of never saying anything and forever playing the wondering game, I believe you should ask her out. Now I would recommend you ask her to go somewhere public, instead of like back to your house. Maybe you should take her bowling, not the movies because that gets uncomfortable sitting next to a person you don't really know and there is no time to talk, movies are not a good idea for a first date, but when your dating its o.k. Anyway, bowling allows you to do something and have fun but also share a conversation but in a comfortable environment. It might not be bowling, but try to remember to keep it casual and don't announce your undying love for her right away, just concentrate on getting to know her. I have a myspace account and I have asked girls before whether they liked getting asked via myspace, aim, or things like that, and every girl has said NO. They think it's cowardly and they don't like it. What I would recommend to you is that you find a time when she is all alone, like walking to a class etc, and walk up to her ask her if she and a few of her friends want to go bowling with you and your friends. That way you aren't pigeon holing her or yourself, it will allow you to talk to her, but she won't be clear on your intentions. That way there is a little ambiguity about you and you can take control of the relationship, once you can get talking to her casually and make sure you talk to her about things she knows and wants to talk about like what she does for fun or class the other day, once you have that down you can get to know her better and she will know you better and the relationship can grow from there. The reason I recommend this idea is because it lowers the risk of personal rejection, it's easy and fun, it will allow necessary talking time between you and her, but it's not clear on whether you just wanted her company or you had other interests. Either way I hope everything works out for you and if you have anything personal to ask me send me an email at [email protected] or private message me. Peace.
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif rando, listen to wizzkid - he's great because he's closer to your age-group and has, in my opionion, always had good suggestions on this forum.
Try it, you might enjoy getting out there - don't be afraid to take that first step!
Uggghhhhhh she said she hated me dam it but I moved on it wasn't that much of a hurt but I like another girl I met just a day after the other girl rejected me and dam I can't believe there are so many things we have in common well its going to be a while till I ask this girl out :o
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