Hi I am 25 yrs old and she's 25 as well... we were together for a year , she decided to take a break... she didn't specify for how long this would go on.. we were to be like friends. It went on OK for around 2 3 months then I started to get impatient . I can't discuss about the break with her , that was the condition. I got impatient and asked her how long this goes on, recently . She got really angry and has ever stopped talking to me . We usually have fights every now and then.. it gets over soon , but this time its taking a lot of time . I am not able to decide what to do . Should I talk to her or not now ? I am fully confused . She is not talking to me right now.. should I let it go for sometime ? And she has changed a lot since we took the break..

Whenever we have fights she tells me to just think of myself and concentrate on myself and that we will be independent... so is she trying to force a break here ? I am confused..

Guess it means break up.

She's has changed a lot u say?. u still like her then?
Frm my side it's break up.

I've gone through this and I know that it's hard as hell to wait around. I only had to wait a week and we got back together but it was hell. Something I discovered though is that when we were apart I realized a whole lot about myself I deeply love my boyfriend and I know that he is the one for me. If you feel that this girl is the one for you then wait, but in your situation it sounds like she's not interested anymore. The best advice I can give you is in a relationship you should always think of yourself first, this may sound odd but let me explain: if you are with someone to make them happy it just won't work do what makes you happy1

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Originally Posted by qetuo

hi i am 25 yrs old and she's 25 as well ..... we were together for a year , she decided to take a break ... she dint specify for how long this would go on .. we were to be like friends. it went on ok for around 2 3 months then i started to get impatient . i can't discuss about the break with her , that was the condition. i got impatient and asked her how long this goes on, recently . she got really angry and has ever stopped talking to me . we usually have fights every now and then .. it gets over soon , but this time its taking a lot of time . i am not able to decide what to do . should i talk to her or not now ? i am fully confused . she is not talking to me right now .. should i let it go for sometime ? and she has changed a lot since we took the break ..

whenever we have fights she tells me to just think of myself and concentrate on myself and that we will be independent ... so is she trying to force a break here ? i am confused ..

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Taking a break is a break up. Period. She has told you to concentrate on yourself, that you two are independent of each other.
Leave her alone and move on. She obviously is not woman enough to just come right out and tell you she's done, but she is showing you she is. Again, leave her alone.

I still am in love with her... she's changed a lot in her behavior and she's acting as if she's not interested in me anymore.. but she's not yet told me that she's breaking up... when she decided to take a break she took a long time and really was confused and kept texting me for forget her . But after we took the break she was fine for 2 3 months.. guess I must leave her alone then... I just have to hope for the best and wait for more time..

The more you call her and question her the further you will push her away and the more she will be sure in her mind that she wants NOTHING to do with you. Your contacting her when she wants a break is confirming that she wants distance from you.
Don't call her... she'll call you IF 'n when she wants to. Until then you are only going to aggravate her.

Thanks a lot for the answers everyone...

She stopped talking to me about 15 days ago... I tried to be casual and used to text her a few neutral forward messages and tried to talk casually... obviously I made her annoyed... so should I completely stop in contact with her now and let time heal the damaga ? How do you see the relationship going now?

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Originally Posted by qetuo

thanks a lot for the answers everyone ...

She stopped talking to me about 15 days ago ... i tried to be casual and used to text her a few neutral forward msgs and tried to talk casually ... obviously i made her annoyed ... so should i completely stop in contact with her now and let time heal the damaga ? how do you see the relationship going now ??

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Yes you should stop contact with her completely. Go on with your life. If she contacts you, then you can decide what you want to do. But assume she is gone for good and move on.