I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. He's a great guy, everything I ever wanted in a man, everything was going great then all of the sudden I just shut off. Now when I look at him I get grossed out. Every thing he says or does gets on my nerves, I don't even want him to touch me. When he tells me he loves me I just ignore him. I've been really mean to him. The nicer he is the meaner I get. I really don't understand why I'm being like this with him. He's a great person but I am just not sure of my actions towards him. Anyone have any advice or suggestions for me?

Is their a pattern that you can identify. Time frame, do you have any instance of chemical imbalance in your family (not trying to be funny)? Do you feel like you made some sort of mistake? Have your other relationships been like this also, or is it local to this one?. Are you always around him, or never around him? More details please.

Then maybe you need to get away so you don't end up breaking his heart.

Well, I do take anti-depressents and I'm divorced and going through a custody battle... And usually I do tend to get bored with relationships or even just people in general

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Originally Posted by Mariesa

Well, I do take anti-depressents and I'm divorced and going through a custody battle... And usually I do tend to get bored with relationships or even just people in general

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Sounds like you need to deal with some personal issues, which you may be taking out on your guy. If you tend to get bored in general then you also identified a pattern in your life/relationships and you can do one of two things. One, you can continue and get the same results you are now. Or two you can work to break that pattern. Like its been mentioned, you are going to end up hurting this person who really doesn't deserve to be hurt if you continue down the same path you are on. What you should do? That is up to you, but you have options like I have mentioned. Have you thought about seeking council? If he is going to be a serious part of your life, have you thought about seeking council with him? Voicing your issues and putting them out so that you can work on them as a joint front?

I can only suggest you stay out of personal relationships, until you have identified, and overcome, your own issues, as it unfair to put any one else through hell, that even you don't understand. If you need help from a professional, to guide you through the process, please don't hesitate to get it.

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Originally Posted by Mariesa

Well, I do take anti-depressents and I'm divorced and going through a custody battle... And usually I do tend to get bored with relationships or even just people in general

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You've answered your own question... you know you need to deal with this. Time to talk to a counselor. Its not a waste of time. Really.

If you are serious about trying to change what's going on, its time to take some action and not just say "this is how i am"... or you can accept this is how you are and know this means you shouldn't be seeking out long term relationships.