Ive been in several relationships. Some long term and some short. Some women said they were in love with me after a few months of dating and scared me away. I couldn't understand it. Other relationships were long term and niether of us fell deeply in love and it didn't last. It always seems one sided. It always seems like when there is love, one person moves faster than the other and someone gets hurt.
A few relationships have ended because I wasn't aggressive enough and they felt that I really didn't care or didn't want to be with them. Others have left because I moved too fast.
I thought I found my real love a few months ago. It started great. As a short time moved past she was gone and now I'm hurting really bad. She said I scared her away.
It's ripping me apart because I know that I blew it. How can I prevent this from happening again? I thought the communication was OK. Maybe not.
It all seems like a high wire act. If my feelings are strong for someone, I can't hide it.
The feeling in the pit of my stomach says it's very real.

I think there are many people out there who can make an individual happy and in love.
Everyone has perks and flaws so it's always a compromise really - you aren't going to find the "perfect" girl. That being said , there's a whole world out there to be discovered, don't give up hope, there's definitely someone out there who is compatible with you.

There was one guy that use to say, "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find that princess for you.". You just have to kiss some more frogs, until you find one for you.

I think there's no one "one" but there's lots of "ones." With so many people in the world, there are bound to be lots of great people and lots of great matches out there for you. It's just my opinion that setting your heart on a "one" may lead to heartache. You'll either be comparing every girl in your life to the ideal built up in your head (and face it, it doesn't exist) and be constantly disappointment or it'll make each break-up that much harder when you feel you may have lost the only person in the world who is right for you.

It didn't work out with this one. You have loved and have faith that you'll love again.

When it's the right person you will not have to hide it. I know your hurting but you are on the right track. Keep working on you, your communication and when its right its right bottom line.

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Originally Posted by Smoked

When its the right person you will not have to hide it. I know your hurting but you are on the right track. Keep working on you, your communication and when its right its right bottom line.

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Yes, Thank You!
I somewhat already know the answers to my own questions. It just helps when others re-assure me. The hurting is so bad I easily get clouded and it's nice to have you folks to ask and dump on. If I had known about this site before, I can only imagine how much further along I would be right now. I guess I can consider this a growing period.
Growing stronger roots... I might say.

This really helps,

Thanks Again!!